Is An Open Relationship Right For You? Here Are 5 Reasons You Might Consider One

If you find yourself feeling like your relationship is growing stale, or that you're not getting enough sexually out of your partnership — but very much enjoy your partner in all other aspects such as values and shared interests — you may want to consider the possibility of an open relationship. That way, like Hannah Montana, you too, can have the best of both worlds. Is an open relationship right for you?

An open relationship is "a relationship where there's a primary partnership of two individuals and they can both have adventures, usually just sexual, outside that 'main' relationship," sexuality educator and social worker Aida Manduley told Elite Daily.

"Polyamory is a type of non-monogamy identified by its focus on having multiple relationships with the consent of all people involved, and by its not shying away from emotional/romantic involvement," Manduley said. So, an open relationship has a "main" couple component, while a poly relationship may not necessarily have that base.

I spoke with professional life and relationship coach Laurie Ellington, who specializes in open relationships and polyamory, to understand why an open relationship is a good idea, and who it may work best for.

She says the bottom line is to "communicate, be respectful, go slow, be honest, be safe, and do onto others as you would like them to do onto you." Ellington offers her support and services to any person out there — she has global patients — who would like to dive into the world of open relationships.

It's up to you two to determine the ground rules of the open relationship: Are you allowed to have sex with your friends? Strangers only? Only threesomes with your partner present? You and your significant other can determine what you two feel comfortable with in the situation.

Read on to see what Ellington says about open relationships, and figure out if one would be right for you and your SO.

You want to explore with other people, but still be with your partner.

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If you have a strong foundation and relationship with your current partner, but also still want to explore other relationships, you could consider talking to your partner about opening up the relationship.

"Couples often want to explore intimate connections with other people without losing their connection to each other," Ellington says.

You're a stellar communicator.

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"What I love most about the open relationship lifestyle is that it really does ask us to be more open, honest, transparent, [and] respectful of ourselves and respectful of others," Ellington says. She says that in order to practice ethical non-monogamy, "clear transparent communication" is essential. It's important to hash out rules and boundaries with your partner before opening up the relationship — and keeping those lines of communication open every day. It's also important to be transparent, honest, and kind with your other partners about what you're looking for.

You feel restricted when practicing monogamy.

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"Individuals [realize] they are ready to try a different way of being in a relationship," Ellington says. "Perhaps they found themselves in a box when they were monogamous. Or, perhaps they experienced a sense of losing themselves in a monogamous relationship. These people [are] hungry for a new experience where they can be 100 [percent] who they are without editing themselves for the sake of another’s feelings."

Essentially, being in an open relationship may feel liberating if that's something you crave in your life — if you want to experience multiple partners and explore more parts of yourself with them.

You want to love more than one person.

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"Some individuals have always sensed they were capable of loving more than one person, and yet society told them otherwise," says Ellington, about how many cultures tout monogamy as the norm. "These people are ready to shift things for themselves and create a life that is more aligned with their values."

You desire more flexibility in your romantic and sexual life.

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"What I love most about the lifestyle is that we get to create it as we go along," Ellington says.

If this sounds a lot like you and your partner, an open relationship might be up your alley.

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