Whenever I go through a bad breakup, I always remind myself that no matter how much it hurts right now, there will come a time when I'll be completely over them, off living my best life, and they (like clockwork) will most likely pop back up and beg for forgiveness. That's when I get the pleasure of saying, “thank u, next,” and it's glorious. Sound familiar? If you're ready to talk to your ex again or pursue a friendship, that's great! If not, that's totally OK, too. But it helps to know how to nicely turn down an ex when they slide back into your DMs and inevitably reach out months (or even years!) later.
Your first instinct may just be to say "lol" and hit the block button, which is fine, too, since you owe them nothing. However, it's also totally possible to be diplomatic while still making it very clear that the door is closed — for good. Or at least until you're ready to open it again. To help break down when and how to shut down an ex nicely, I reached out to the experts. Here is how they say to best handle the situation in a way that will both let them know you're not interested and still keep it classy.