The odds that I reach for the check on a first date are about 99.99 percent. Seriously, ask any man who's ever gone out with me ever. I once bought a guy, like, a hundred dollars worth of oysters because my check-reaching abilities are basically spidey senses (and his were, um, not). In other words, I've never been a stickler about guys paying for the first date, because I don't want to be in anyone's debt — especially not the debt of a person I barely know. (For real, though. I once let a guy treat me at a fancy cocktail bar and at the end of the evening he said, "I didn't spend 30 dollars on your drinks for nothing." Never again.)
On the flip side, it's pretty common to let, or even expect, a fellow to pay on the first date. In fact, I've also spoken with a few guys who — without an agenda (or so they claim) — actually take pleasure in paying on the first date, particularly if they've asked a girl out. And while I'm all about eliminating gender-normative stereotypes, I'm also all about getting free fries, so I can appreciate this mindset.
But, where do most guys really stand on this issue? Are they crossing their fingers that you're down to go Dutch, or willing to arm-wrestle you for the check at the end of the night? I turned to the gentlemen of Reddit, plus two guys I know IRL, to find out. Here's what eight men have to say about paying on the first date.