It's one thing to hear that "all relationships have ups and downs," but it's another thing entirely to experience it firsthand and realize it's not just a cliche. The chemistry and excitement that once felt effortless to you and your partner can become difficult to maintain after you've been together for years, and it's normal to worry about what those changes mean for the future of your relationship. But just because you've hit a lull, that doesn’t mean it’s a lost cause. In fact, depending on how you go about extending a relationship that’s lost its spark, you may not only revive the relationship, but also learn important lessons that can strengthen your love as you move forward together.
In order for that to happen, it's important to address the root cause of the problem, Lisa Concepcion, certified dating and relationship expert, and founder of LoveQuest Coaching, tells Elite Daily. "It’s normal for long-term relationships to lose their spark, and typically the reason for this is one word: routine," Concepcion explains. "When couples slip into a routine, things get boring. The same two restaurants. The same Friday night of Netflix and ordering food from the same place. The sitting together in comfortable silence on the phones scrolling. This all adds up to routine, rut, and disconnection."
If this all sounds a bit too familiar, then Nina Rubin, a life coach and psychotherapist, says not to panic. “If the spark is dim or hidden, it can definitely be reignited,” she tells Elite Daily. Here’s how the experts suggest you go aboutre-igniting your spark and making it last.