There are many milestones you and your honey will hit in your relationship, and deciding to move in together is a major one. If you and your partner are thinking about cohabiting, you two lovebirds have probably discussed everything from how to split the rent to a plan for divvying up dish duty. Having all these conversations ahead of time is a great idea and can help you decide if you're ready to share an address with your partner. But before moving in together, ask these sex questions to really be sure you two are ready for this big step. While it's completely normal for your sex life to gradually change if you're in a long-term relationship, it can also change when you live with your partner.
Dr. Jess O'Reilly, sexologist and relationship expert, says that maintaining a healthy sex life with your partner once you cohabit is an intentional practice. O'Reilly says, "You likely have to cultivate desire as opposed to expecting it to arise spontaneously. This is normal, as the initial attraction and excitement fades alongside novelty and unpredictability." If you and your partner don't spend every night together, sex isn't even an option some nights, but that changes when you live together. O'Reilly says, "Now that you spend every night together, it’s easy to fall into the routine of leaving it for another day — and this can be perfectly healthy as long as you’re both being honest about your desires.
It's great to be mindful of how your sexual dynamic could change with your partner once you live together, and you might be able to avoid potential issues by pre-emptively having a conversation. O'Reilly suggests, "Talk about potential issues before they become sources of tension and conflict. It’s easier to address an issue when emotions are not running high, so even if you’re not have issues at this time, be proactive about the conversations." In terms of what to actually cover in your conversation, O'Reilly says, "I often suggest that couples begin with the Three Fs: Feelings, Frequency, and Fantasy." Discussing these topics before you move in together will be really informative about your long-term sexual compatibility.