One thing I would say about getting married: don’t do it until you see him super ANGRY. How does he handle his anger? Don’t do it until you have upset him seriously at least once. Can he forgive and move on or does he bring up what you did every time he needs a point? Wait until you see him at his lowest. Does he want you to be his handmaiden or does he want a hand up? It takes years to really know these things and people (me included) don’t wait long enough to really know. I was with my husband 6 years before the switch flipped.
If you've experienced any of these things in your own relationship, at the very least, take this article as a sign that you are not alone.
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