I've always been a sucker for an introvert. Quiet, withdrawn, shy — that's the trifecta of extreme desirability for me. Throw in a little awkward and sad, and I am in love. Maybe it's the extrovert in me, but I’ve always been drawn to people who I need to crack open a bit. I guess I like a challenge. Or maybe it’s their air of mystery? Either way, I find them irresistible. The problem is, it can be really hard to recognize the signs an introvert likes you back.
Getting to know, let alone date, an introvert takes a bit more work, but it's totally rewarding. There is something really special about knowing that you are one of the few people that they have let into their very private world. But it's easy to mistake their introversion for a lack of interest, or to get confused by what seems like they're sending mixed signals. That's because the clues can be (frustratingly) subtle, but I promise you they are there — you just need to know what to look for.
So, is there an introvert in your life you wonder about? If so, here's how to know if that shy guy (or gal) is secretly crushing on you.
1. They Suddenly Just Seem To Always Be Around
An introvert who is interested in you may not directly make plans to spend time with you, but instead opt to conveniently just be around where you are… a lot. Whether it’s making sure to join in any group outing you’re a part of, or showing up at places you frequent, if they are just suddenly very present in your life, it’s a sign they crushing on you.
Introverts tend to sit back and observe before they jump in; this is their quiet way of getting to know you.
2. They Change Their Behavior When They’re Around You
Have you noticed them change their behavior when you walk in the room? Do they suddenly get quiet, or turn up? If you have an effect on them, it's because they are secretly into you.
3. They Let You Into Their Personal Space
This can be literally letting you get near them and touch them, or, more figuratively, they share their alone time with you. Introverts tend to value their quiet time, so if they are willing to include you in that, then girl, you have made it — you have cracked the shell of the illusive introvert. But seriously, that's really special and you should feel amazing.
4. They Get Personal With You
Introverts tend to play their feelings close to the vest, so when one begins sharing their innermost feelings with you, that’s a pretty big deal. It's not easy for them to share their private side with people, so if they are going through the effort to do that, it’s big flashing sign they’ve caught feelings and that they feel comfortable around you enough to do it.
5. They Go Outside Their Comfort Zone With You
We all love our comfort zones. They're just so, you know... comfortable. Introverts most of all. So when an introvert who's previously avoided social gatherings is suddenly going to the party or hitting the club when you're “coincidentally “ there, then you know they've got it bad. Maybe it’s making small talk or calling you on the phone — if they are pushing outside of their safe space for you, you can be pretty confident they're crushing hard.
See, it’s really easy to let these signs slip below your radar, but they are there. If you're vigilant and patient it's worth it. Take it from me, falling for a sweet and thoughtful introvert is the best.
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