When I was in my sophomore year in college, my on-again, off-again boyfriend studied abroad. He decided we should be on-again right before he left for Italy, before we had time to settle into a rhythm of what a relationship would look like for us this time around. I didn't want to be single; I couldn't imagine being with anyone but him at the time, so even though he'd be across the ocean, I figured we'd make it work. It was a good test, too: if the relationship won't survive long-distance, that would be a good indicator maybe we weren't ~meant to be.~
Between his semester in Italy and my study abroad trip to Paris, we had a reunion in Europe. I planned a last-minute weekend trip for us to meet in Milan the week after his birthday using a year's worth of birthday and Hanukkah money. The trip was good for us. But if our relationship had been long-distance for an indefinite stretch of time after that, I'm not sure we would have made it.
To learn more about the red flags that a long-distance relationship isn't built to last, I spoke with author and relationships expert Alexis Nicole White. Here are three things she said to look out for.