It's hard to strike the right note when you're texting a recent crush, and having some questions to ask your crush can help you get them to open. It saves you the trouble of having to come across as witty and interesting, and it basically guarantees that someone is going to be excited to talk to you. Literally everybody loves talking about themselves.
But you know who else asks a lot of questions? Psychiatrists. So when you're texting your crush, keep it light, cute, and as funny as possible. There's plenty of time to open up about your deepest, darkest secrets later on, and it will be so much more meaningful when you aren't communicating through a phone.
And if you feel like you are doing all of the legwork in keeping a text conversation going, then cut yourself some slack. It takes two people to have a flowing conversation, and not all of the pressure should be on you to make your connection jive over phone.
Here are some questions to ask your crush to find out whether you two can keep up a text flirtation in between dates:
1. When Was The Last Time You Cried?
You don't need them to tell you why they cried, just find out whether they can keep up with your weekly regimen, or if they're an android who hasn't cried since second grade.
2. What Were You Like When You Were A Kid?
Talking about what enormous dorks you both were works 99 percent of the time.
3. What's The Weirdest Pet You Would Like To Have?
Forget snakes. Let's talk about how you fantasize about owning a leech.
4. What's Your Biggest Deal Breaker On A Date?
If they say that they hate when people talk about zodiac signs, then they aren't worth your time.
5. What Color Is Your Aura?
Bonus points if they not only know the color but also have some idea about which chakra it's closest to.
6. Pros And Cons Of Having Kanye West As President?
Honestly, I can't think of any cons.
7. What's Your Opinion On Free Will?
The perfect question for philosophy students and astrologists alike.
8. What's The Best Compliment You've Ever Received?
Once you know the competition, you'll have some idea of how to beat it. Because nobody compliments like you compliment.
9. How Would You Fare During The Apocalypse?
With the end of days looming nigh and whatnot, it's probably a good idea to figure out of if this is someone who would learn to till the land in the event of the apocalypse, or if they would eat you first.
10. Would You Rather Live In The City Or In The Woods?
My parents are woods people. I grew up in the woods. I need to be with someone who is city all the way.
11. Do You Believe In Soulmates?
I don't know if I believe in soulmates, or if I just want to believe in them, but anyone who puts a cap on the idea probably hates fun, too.
12. What Is Your Biggest Fear?
Reoccurring nightmares, childhood terrors, and similar subjects naturally follow asking your crush this question — just in time for Halloween.
13. Have You Ever Fallen In Love With Your Best Friend?
If they say no, they are either completely repressed or a liar. I'd place money on it.
14. How Many People Are You Crushing On Right Now?
Don't be too disappointed if you're talking to someone who has five different crushes a day. Crushes are fun! And it doesn't mean they're not into you.
15. What's The Worst Job You've Ever Had?
It's a tie between a substitute teacher and working at Starbucks.
16. Who Do You Talk To When You're Feeling Sad?
Everyone needs a friend to text 20 times in a row while panicking and then follow up four hours later with a casual "...but how r u??"
17. Who Was Your First Crush?
You know how crushes flirt with one another? By talking about their previous crush.
18. Do You Eat Things That Have Been Dropped On The Floor?
Spoiler alert: Virgo is maybe the only sign who doesn't.
19. What's The One Thing You Would Save From Your Burning House?
I mean, after their pets. Always pets first.
20. Are You Ticklish?
If you're hoping your bodies will get close sooner rather than later, this is definitely the question to find out whether it's on.
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