So, you just broke up with your significant other. Maybe doors were slammed, and maybe you already dragged your friends to the bar to drown your sorrows.
Maybe, you're currently making the worst post-breakup move of them all: staring at your cell phone for hours on end, waiting for that "I miss you" text.
When you lose the person you once dubbed your better half, it's hard not to make rash decisions that supply temporary bouts of happiness. But, almost always, those are temporary fixes. Case and point: your two best buds, Ben and Jerry.
Even though the two might be the most faithful of the male species on the planet, sadly, those pint-sized suckers won't mute your unwanted feelings forever. Let's face another truth: One-night stands are just that, people -- one night.
What are you to do when you can't stop over-analyzing where it all went wrong? The answer has been around you all along.
In fact, you can find it in your car, on TV, via your cell phone or quite easily, on YouTube. The best part is that it's something you can turn to, over and over, for a pick-me-up. It's a good, loud hip-hop song.
Although the genre has a bad rap for glamorizing sex, drugs and getting money, surprisingly there's much more to urban music than one might think.
No offense, T. Swift, but do you really think that the majority of your listeners can relate to your lifestyle of having more boyfriends than they do t-shirts? Here's a hint: No.
Chances are, a rapper has once or twice freestyled with the very kind of frustration you're feeling now. The best way to get over something isn't to mask it, but to face reality. Rappers, by means of tone and inflection — and, of course, their words — will tell you what's real.
They may not seem like the gentlest sort, but they just might be the most intellectual artists out there. Rappers often write their own stuff, unlike many of the catchy artists with Top 40 hits you hear on the radio. Rappers talk from experience; they talk about hardship, loss and getting better.
From headliners like Hova to artists with a softer vibes like Frank Ocean, frankly, these guys say the sh*t you wish you could man up and say. Their words can bring out a side of you that you didn't even know you had.
If you open up your mind, and obviously ears, to the 10 songs below, you'll be able to get through just about any stage of a breakup.
Be it loneliness, anger, resentment, frustration or disgust, ultimately, the best phase is moving the f*ck on. So, grab your nearest set of headphones or turn up those speakers. You're about to relate to some of the greats:
"Opposites Attract" (Tomorrow Without Her) by Kendrick Lamar
Kendrick translates the thoughts of both men and women in rocky relationships. The song begins with "We hurt people that love us/love people that hurt us." By including words from Lamont Carey's poem, "She Says She Loves Me" at the end, you've got a masterpiece.
"Leaving You" by Fabolous
Screwed over by an unfaithful ex? It's like Fab just read your mind with this one.
"Ain't Worried About Nothin" by French Montana
If anything, this song will make you laugh. Better yet, those four words are the most important words you need to hear. The more you say them out loud, the more you'll start to believe you really aren't worried about a damn thing.
"Crooked Smile" by J. Cole feat. TLC
This North Carolina native (and probably the sweetest rapper in the game) wrote this one for the ladies. It encourages women to love themselves and their flaws and to never let a man make you feel inferior. Need a boost of self-esteem? This will do it.
"On to the Next One" by Jay Z
Does this one bear explanation? In the words of HOV, moving onward is the only direction.
"LoveHate Thing" by Wale feat. Sam Dew
Hate someone one minute, love him or her the next? This song will make you stop saying to yourself, "Wow. I'm batsh*t crazy."
"I Don't F*ck With You" by Big Sean feat. E-40
This one is probably the best feel-good rap song to surface in 2014. It's about exactly what the title suggests. You simply don't literally or figuratively f*ck with a person anymore. And, it feels good to say that out loud. Try it.
"Runaway" by Kanye West feat. Pusha T
You're only allowed to listen to this with a cold adult beverage in hand.
"Pain" by Fabolous
The lyrical genius strikes again. Fab describes the pain you're going through and how to overcome it.
"Thinkin' Bout You" by Frank Ocean
Okay, so I understand there will always be a time when the nostalgia will set in. This mellow song is for those of you who want to wallow in your sorrows… just don't hit repeat too many times.
So, when all is said and done, and you're starting to feel soft again, the answer is simple: Hit replay. I promise, you won't feel alone and you'll realize music is the healthiest way to get over that special someone... er, I mean, who?
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