Your Career Is Worth More Than Your Love Life

by Ashley Fern

Recently Carrie Underwood told the world that if her husband asked her to quit singing, she would. Are you an idiot? Really you would give up your amazing musical career? What is this the 1920s? Also, your husband plays hockey, so he’s basically on the D-List. Honestly what does this say about a person’s values? Carrie Underwood is a singer: that is who she is and that was who she was when her husband agreed to marry her.

We can elect to have both a career and a relationship, but it’s never easy. It comes down to how hard you are willing to fight for both or one over the other. As careers advance, promotions become available that may have a negative impact on your relationship. Some people have the ability to balance both fluidly, but many cannot.

True love is difficult to come across, which is why many people are willing to lose their career for it. When deciding whether or not to give up your career, you need to look at a variety of aspects. Could you ever forgive yourself for passing up an amazing opportunity for the benefit of someone else? Will you resent your partner eventually?

This is a huge issue because resentment breeds tension that will only cause arguments. Bitterness is a slow killer of relationships and if you ever regret giving up your career, this can turn into hatred.

Of course there are unique situations where a person would want a partner to give up his or her career. For instance, Vinny Chase wanted Sasha Grey to renounce her title as the back door queen. Under these circumstances, it is completely understandable that a guy wouldn’t want his girlfriend to make a living taking it in badonnnnk from a bunch of different guys.

“Some women choose to follow men and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore”- Lady Gaga

Everything in the world is worthless until we attach our hearts to it. When deciding whether to give up your career you need to look at what is important to you. If your heart and soul lie within your career, stick with it, but if your heart is in your relationship then that’s the route you need to take. As long as you pick the option that is meaningful to you, you will not regret it.

Giving up a career to raise a family is a huge issue many women face, but in today’s society it’s possible and acceptable for women to have both a career and a family. The choice isn’t about having a successful career or a family, it’s about what will make you happy.

Careers are incredibly beneficial to our mental health if they are in an industry you truly care about. No person should ever ask you to give something up that you love. Constantly improving and growing, as a professional, provides endless amounts of self-esteem. If you are sacrificing something you truly love regardless if it’s your partner or your dream job, you are giving up a part of yourself. You need to ask yourself why are you choosing and who is making you choose.

I would never do something that I was told to do by anyone. You worked hard in life to earn a career so you deserve to reap the rewards. Your significant other should not be preventing you from doing so, instead they should respect your ambitions and encourage you every step of the way. I am all for compromising and discussing things, but ultimatums are an absolute no-no. In all honesty, is it ever worth giving up a career for someone that can betray you?

For some reason some people don’t realize the truth is that you can have it all. You can have an amazing career complemented by an equally amazing partner. Your career is an aspect of your life that will help you gain autonomy, self-sufficiency and the lifestyle you have always envisioned. Your relationship will provide you with emotional, warm and loving support. The person you are with should be there to encourage you and help you to be the best person you can.

Why would you even want to be with someone who does not want to push and motivate you? I have always believed that in order to be happy in a relationship you need to be happy with yourself first. How can you ever be truly happy knowing you sacrificed your career for a guy or girl?