Life is full of intricate and difficult circumstances, but you don’t need to be miserable or apprehensive when life gets tough. Rather use these situations to develop yourself and your happiness. We need to stop worrying and overthinking everything and learn to concentrate on the present moment.
Your quality of life is dependent on how you deal with what comes your way, not what doesn’t. People make the unfortunate mistake of trying to plan every detail of their lives at one time. Life unfolds only in moments, so the best way to handle things that come you way is to tackle one thing at a time. When you stumble across an undesirable situation, the wise thing to do is to work with it willingly. Make an active effort to do all you can to rectify this predicament to your liking.
Before I recognized this I was constantly trying to solve my entire life in one instance. This brings on unnecessary anxiety and only detracts you from the issue at hand. No one can deal with the past or future because they both only exist as thoughts, it is much more beneficial to focus your time and energy on a problem that is actually occurring.
Of course there is more than one instance going on in a person’s life at any given time, but all you need to do is focus on the moment that is happening right in front of you and act in a way that makes sense to you. You cannot plan your love life and your career. You need to focus on one, then the other because your focus will be divided diminishing both aspects, causing them to falter. Watch it unfold before your eyes and then move on. That is all you can be held accountable for, your reaction to the present moment.
Happiness does not depend on external conditions; it is governed by our mental perception.
Too many people focus on their past or their future. Of course your past should teach you something, but you do not need to cling to these memories. If people were to implement this system into their lives it would help to alleviate much of their personal anxiety and suffering. Your future may be dependent on the choices you are currently making, but you will drive yourself crazy if that is what your main focus is. Are you bringing anything positive to the present moment by concentrating on things so far out of reach?
Moments can be observed with simplicity and concentration, whereas our entire lives are too immense to be managed simultaneously. The overwhelming weight of our past can often be too much to bear when looked in conjunction with a present moment. Each moment needs to be evaluated separately so that the mind is able to completely focus. The uncertainty the future has to offer can cause unease and worry so it really is all about focusing on the present moment. You cannot let the ambiguity and unknowns weigh down your present actions.
Most of what we interact with on a daily basis is not actually happening in real time. People tend to run over their beliefs and values in their head without acting upon them. We live in an augmented reality where people have an incredibly tricky time observing something without mistaking it with their thoughts about it. This leads to the error of thinking about situations and problems that are not even currently present.
An awful mistake people make is dwelling on an unfavorable condition and doing nothing about it. How do you expect anything to get better or change if you refuse to get off your ass? All the whining in the world cannot undo what has been done, but your actions can! You are always responsible for how you act no matter how you feel. True character is revealed when you’re forced to overcome difficulty.
It’s crazy how we hold on to things that only cause problems for ourselves by spotlighting the what-ifs and if-onlys. If you consistently center on past events or unalterable things, you will only create roadblocks for yourself.
The best thing you can do is take situations as they come to you and adjust your reactions accordingly. Dealing with problems in a constructive way means acting calmly and with reason to either accept or change our circumstances. Remember, you can’t solve problems that have yet to arise. Of course it’s overwhelming, but what else can we do? You can’t figure out your entire life all at once. This moment is the only one we have.