Have you ever heard the saying "Be careful of what you ask for because you just may get it?” I’m sure you’ve not only heard it, but you probably believed it as well.
Here's another one… "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me." This one was a mantra for my parents as I was growing up. They didn’t consider that my bones would heal but words would always be in my psyche.
"Anything you say can and will be used against you in the ….." Well if you've heard this often, I have another article that you may want to read.
These familiar sayings have been passed along for generations. As a child, I can recall being taught that sticks and stones do damage. Nevertheless, it wasn't until my later years that I fully understood the true meaning of these clichés. I took them for their figurative interpretation, not literally.
I soon came to realize that the tongue is both literally and physically the strongest muscle in the body. The power of the spoken word is more than a notion. It’s the framework of how your life is portrayed.
"The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit." This proverb was written by King Solomon. Translated in modern day lingo: "Say what you mean and mean what you say."
I got to know this principal well working as a Coach while I listened to my clients. So often I would hear them say what they did not mean and mean things they never said. Why is it so hard to believe that we speak our lives into existence?
It’s no different than how an author expresses his thoughts into words on paper, laying out the story as he would have it. We too are the authors of our lives, with the exception that the paperback book is our reality and we turn the pages day by day. Take responsibility and note that you are not the reader but the author, publisher and editor if you so choose.
Everything you see before you has been conceived by a thought. As we know, thoughts become tangible things and those things are produce by the manifestation of the spoken word. For example: John lives in suburban area but drives to the city for work.
When asked how his commute is, John answers “I always catch traffic and can never find parking." Now this may very well be John’s experience; however, the power of his spoken word and the belief behind it can only further confirm that particular reality. Think of your tongue as a magic wand constantly waiving all of your desires, be they good, bad, productive or non-serving into reality.
Another example of a client named Jonah who has always complained that "there [are] no good men out there" and that “she [has] the worst luck with men".
According to the universal law, the magic wand says, 'your wish is my command’ and voilà. Jonah and I spent months discussing her failed and dysfunctional relationships until she was able to change her words to something more empowering. She began to speak into existence the things she desired, despite her reality.
Faith: The evidence of things hoped for but yet not seen.
Fear: False Evidence Appearing Real
Your words should be spoken with more faith and less fear. Speak things that work for you, not things that work against you. Become a better steward of your thoughts so that you can produce words to construct the life that you desire.
Mind your role models who speak of the life you’ve always wanted. Copy their words, understand their meaning and apply their rhetoric as frequently as possible. If you wanted to learn French you would not hire a Spanish translator nor would you speak Spanish in the attempt to communicate French. Consequently, your direct language produces the same results in your life.
Evaluate your words, regardless of your intentions. Make sure your words are powerful and productive. Make sure they align with the commands for your desired life. Pay attention to cliché sayings that roll off the tongue without reservation, granting wishes that you don’t consciously want.
'I have the worst luck', 'things never go my way', ' I cannot afford it" or 'Today is not my lucky day'. Remember ‘Your Wish is my command’. If you’re going to think it and say it make sure it's what you truly desire. In life you don't always get what you want but you do get what you expect. The spoken word is affirmation of what you expect from life regardless of what you want.
Become so loud on the inside that the echoes of life become silenced ~ Jamel Davenport
Jamel Davenport | Elite.