10 Thoughts You Have When You Feel Like 'The Invisible Girl' In Your Posse
Do you ever feel like no matter what you do, your friends get more attention than you do? You're not any less pretty or interesting, but it's like don't even exist. You start to feel like something's really wrong with you, and you don't understand why.
While you should rest assured that there's nothing really wrong with you, it can feel pretty discouraging after a while.
If you've ever felt like the invisible girl in your friend group, then it's likely some of these thoughts have crossed your mind:
You're all attractive, but somehow, they upstage you.
It's not like you're a troll who surrounded yourself with a bunch of supermodels. Your group is all reasonably cute.
You would say pretty much all of you are on the same level. Why, then, does everyone but you get attention? It's maddening.
You are the fun one, but guys don't notice you.
You're a great time and the life of the party, but they don't care. They just want the one with the longest legs or the tiniest one with the waterfall of beautiful hair.
Obviously, you don't want a guy that superficial, but you aren't chopped liver, either. You're a good-looking chick in your own right. Why won't they hit on you, too?
Everyone is always getting play... except you.
It feels really awkward if you're out with your girls and they are all talking to dudes while you stand there alone, sipping your drink and trying to figure out what to do.
You aren't pathetic, by any means, but it really does make you feel bad. You have just as much to offer as they do.
You start feeling insecure.
Usually, you're fairly confident, but your self-esteem begins cracking. Feeling undesired will shake even the strongest of women.
You begin second-guessing yourself and your opinion of your worthiness. Can it really just be that the guys are shitty if they're all doing this to you? Are you somehow gross and don't know it? (Hint: The answer is no.) Ugh.
You can't figure out what they have that you don't.
OK, maybe you aren't the biggest flirt in the world, and you aren't dying for the attention of a guy, but so what? That doesn't make you unapproachable.
You're doing your own thing and having fun. What's so scary about that? It should make you more appealing, if anything.
You know they think you're cool...
Your friends love you and think you're rad. Why else would you all be such a tight group? You, of course, adore them and think they are all deserving of attention. You just happen to believe that you are too, so seriously, what the fuck is going on here?
And you know you're cool...
You have a lot to offer, and anyone who knows you readily admits that. Why, then, are you the wallflower every time your group is out together? It gets old very quickly. Guys would think you're great, if they took the time to find out.
...but guys don't even glance your way.
It doesn't matter what you do. You're simply not on their radar, and honestly, it can be pretty disheartening. You can't help but feel sad when yet another night ends, and you leave unnoticed.
You could probably walk in the club naked, and they'd still be flirting with your friends. Go figure.
You get frustrated.
The worst part is that it starts affecting your friendships. You love your girls dearly, but who wants to feel shitty every time you go out?
Of course, it's not their fault, but it still bums you out. You might even stop trying to make connections with guys, and you get irritated when your buddies want to flirt. It's just tiring being the odd girl out.
It makes you feel less than, and you don't like that.
You start suggesting tamer activities, where you all meet up at someone's house, hang out there and drink wine, instead. Hikes are good, too. Anything you can all do without boys around to make you feel like shit is OK with you.
You want to spend time with your friends, but they don't realize how much all of this fucks with your self-esteem.
Sometimes, it's even worse when they do realize. There's nothing more horrible than the look of pity in their eyes when they see you being ignored by dudes, yet again.
But take pride in everything you have to offer. You and your friends know what a gem you are, and if a guy can't see that, then that's his problem, not yours.