Generation-Y is an attention-hungry generation that over the years has developed a skewed sense of what we value in our lives. This causes many of us to become insecure and uncomfortable with who we are. We ourselves are in part to blame for this, but the environment we grew up in has something to do with it too. Society puts up these unattainable images in order to keep us 'catching up' with something they made up.
We are constantly fed images of skinny models or muscular dudes because society tells us that this is what we need to be. People then eat this up (or don't eat at all) and forget who they really are as human beings. Our generation spends time chasing these false images in the hopes of one day being able to fit in.
All we want to do is be a part of something greater than ourselves but if we don't know who we are as individuals then we can't know what we want to associate with. We begin to develop insecurities when all we need is a little guidance. Here are the reasons why you're insecure:
You judge other people without looking at yourself.
As Socrates said, "The unexamined life is not worth living." And with this, he wanted us to examine our lives on a regular basis. He is referring to a personal report card that will keep you on track with things you want to do.
However if you're too busy judging other people, you have no time to critique yourself and build upon your own interests. You find yourself always trying to keep up and prove that you are better than other people, which in turn leads you to go down a path that you really don't need to go down.
You judge your current relationship by your past relationships.
Sounds like a lot of us, what we thought was a budding relationship that was going to last forever just crashed and burned, ending up in one huge mess. You gave everything you had to this person and with a few acts they completely disregarded all your efforts leading you guys to break up in an ugly fashion. The one you thought was supposed to be there for you has left you alone. Although you guys no longer speak, the remnants of this past relationship still haunt you and always make you question yourself.
You're just way too sensitive about details that don't matter.
While no detail is too small, there is a time when you need to find a cut off. You can't always preoccupy yourself will small minute details that don't really have a place in the grand scheme of things. This just shows that you're not at all willing to grow up and move past things that bother you. While we all have our pet peeves, we must learn to control them and keep them to a minimum.
You do things to please others rather than to please yourself.
Life is all about pursuing your idea of happiness, yours and no one else's. If you're out there too busy trying to impress your friends then you won't have time for yourself. Your true friends will accept you for who you are, not because you have to impress them.
You let material goods speak louder than your personality.
This is one of the biggest problems with Generation-Y. We are so keen on judging people for what they have rather than who they are. Today you are so hyped about getting the latest iPhone or the latest Jordan sneakers that you actually forget that these objects do not define who you are. No matter what you have, if you have a sh*tty personality, you are going to be a sh*tty person.
You don't know how not to be the center of attention.
There are those people who naturally attract attention and then there are those people who just try way too hard. If you find yourself in the latter group then you, my friend, are insecure. Stop always trying to have the conversation be about you, there are other things that people want to talk about besides how you spend your weekends and what you have planned for the upcoming week.
You're exceptionally good at inventing problems that don't really exist.
This is one of the biggest reasons you are insecure. The problem is that you really don't have serious issues in your life, so you create these fantastical problems in order to get sympathy. Life is full of ups and downs, there is no need for you to go around dramatizing problems in order to get sympathy from others or just to feel bad for yourself. Stop overlooking the simple fact that you have been blessed with a comfortable life and you don't have real problems -- so enjoy your life.
You surround yourself with insecure people.
There is nothing that is going to make you insecure quite like surrounding yourself with a group of insecure people. You are who you surround yourself with and if the people around you are insecure and miserable, then you will follow suit. Friends who are very judgmental about things that don't matter tend to be very insecure with themselves and they will do anything they can to bring you down with them.
You compare yourself to people you shouldn't be comparing yourself to.
This is in part due to the culture we live in, but it also has to do with your perspective on life. Society is always trying to tell us what the perfect image is and this includes both men and women. If you find yourself trying to live up to this image, then you will never be satisfied with who you are.
There is a reason models are super skinny and just because they appear on Vogue doesn't mean that they are what you should be trying to emulate. Be comfortable in your own skin and try to emulate people's good values rather than their physical images.
You let your past failures define who you are.
You dwell too much on past failures. We all want to be successful, but no success comes without its failures. Overnight success is a thing we see in Hollywood, the real world doesn't really work like that and it's important for you to realize this. Just because you were passionate about something and it didn't work doesn't mean you have to give up on life, dust yourself up and don't beat yourself up over one failure.
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