A Generation That Loves To Judge

by Ashley Fern

Why do people feel the need to constantly worry about what is going on in other people’s lives? Everyone at some point or another has passed judgment upon another, and more often than not, these judgments have been passed on you.

This is a bizarre concept to me, why are you wasting your time analyzing other people’s behavior when you should, first and foremost, be concerned with your own? Who gives a sh*t what other people are concerning themselves with, this is none of your damn business.

“Do you know what it’s like to be me? Go through something not everyone can see? Do you know what it’s like to walk in my shoes? Please stop judging me simply because I am not you.”

If we spent as much time worrying about our own behaviors as we do worrying about others’, our lives would be a whole lot more meaningful. You have no idea what is going on in another person’s personal life, so who are you to pass judgment on the way they act?

Why are we so concerned with the opinions of others? Shouldn’t we be concerned with how we feel about ourselves? If you do not have a problem with the way you are acting, who cares what others think about it. This is not good for your mental health whatsoever.

“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.”

People are always going to be judging you, but it’s up to you to rise above this pettiness. By worrying about what others think of you, you are only limiting your own potential. Stop hesitating and do what you think is in your best interest. There is nothing you can do to prevent people from talking about you, but there is something you can do in the way you react to it.

It is not worth it to judge others; all it does is reflect your poor character. By judging others by what you see, all you are seeing is what you want to see, not what they truly are. Your presumptions keep you away from the ‘truth’; you must stop judging before the dust has settled to see clearly.

“You know my name not my story”

People who don’t like you will talk sh*t all the damn time. Why are you concerning yourself with people who don’t even care about you? These people are not worth your time. If someone is constantly talking badly about you and you do not react, this person will make himself or herself look worse, not you. Embrace your haters, it means you are doing something right!

Why do you need everyone to like you anyway? What detriment is this even going to bring into your life? None. You will still go about your life the same way you have been. These negative influences will have no part in your daily routine anyway. Stop worrying if people like you or not, just keep doing what you’re doing. The only people who matter are those whom you choose to associate with. You only need to concern yourself with the people whom you care about and the people who care about you in return.

“Believe half of what you see, and none of what you hear.”

The worst thing you can do to someone is to crucify them based on past behaviors when they are actively trying to change. Stop judging people for what they have done and who they used to be. You should admire them for acknowledging their detrimental past and commend them for altering their behavior.

When you think about it, you are not perfect either, so why are you passing opinions on others? Would you like them to discuss your faults with anyone who is willing to listen? Break the cycle and try to understand people for who they are and not for the image you have of them in your head.