When it comes to my girl squad, I can't help but brag.
I'm fortunate enough to be surrounded by a crew of awesome gals. I know they will be there for me through thick and thin.
True friends won't ditch you for better plans when you're having a week from hell and want to stay in. You can count on them to be ready to binge-watch chick flicks and eat one too many chocolate chip cookies with you.
I've always been a firm believer that those who've dealt with, survived and successfully conquered high school (and college) drama together, stay together.
I consider all my close gal pals my besties till the end. And we all know forever friends come few and far between.
Author Sarah Ockler once wrote,
In your entire life, you can probably count your true friends on one hand. Maybe even on one finger. Those are the friends you need to cherish, and I wouldn't trade one of them for a hundred of the other kind. I'd rather be completely alone than with a bunch of people who aren't real. People who are just passing time.
Real talk: Sarah knows what's up.
Sadly, over the years, a girl unfortunately cannot avoid that friend who comes along, who doesn't actually turn out to be, well, a “friend” at all.
She will most likely try to come between you and your squad with her consistent, hurtful lies. She thrives off drama and bringing other people down.
According to Medical Daily, “Pathologies are conditions or disorders that are innate to somebody's health.”
The article refers to a new edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, which states pathological lying may potentially be a symptom of something larger, called “antisocial personality disorder.”
Overall, Dr. Howard Forman revealed,
I think that if there is one central — almost universal — motivating factor, it is the avoidance of shame.
Pathological liars want to prevent being humiliated, so they lie... and unfortunately cause a ton of destruction when they do.
If you notice any of these four signs, I hate to break it to you, but your so-called “friend” is most likely constantly lying to your face (and not to your face, too).
1. You have a sense in your stomach that things aren't adding up.
When you have that suspicious sense in your stomach that something doesn't seem right, it probably isn't.
You should listen to that little voice inside your head telling you something's definitely up, and give your intuition some credit.
It's a warning sign. You'll be happy when that toxic person is exposed, so she can't do any more damage to you or the people who matter to you the most.
2. She doesn't look you in the eye when she's talking about something important.
This is the oldest trick in the book: If your friend doesn't look you in the eye when you're having an important talk with her, she's a complete and total liar.
She can't handle the pressure or take the heat. So, she should peace out of the kitchen if she knows what's good for her.
3. She tells you about something more than once, but each time, the facts are different.
If this betch keeps getting her facts mixed up, you just KNOW she's not being totally legit with you.
Consistently making stuff up will certainly catch up to her, and when it does, she's in for the rudest awakening.
4. She uses the back door route to make friends with your friends.
She assesses her way in, and attempts to stick her claws into your friends the sneaky AF way... like a snake.
Her process begins by sucking up to them (with lies), trying to gain their allegiance (with lies) and then feeding them more, more and more ridiculous lies. It's a disturbing cycle.
She always fails in the end because true friends will eventually see right through all the bullshit.
5. She talks behind your back.
If you found out through the grapevine that she said something about you, but she hardcore denies it when you confront her, you know what that means.
And if she starts talking shit about another friend to you just for the sake of starting drama, that's never a good sign either.
Girls are usually trusting by nature... until they get burned a few times. This can really hurt if you believed this girl was one of your closest friends.
A couple of lies turn into a web of lies. Then, the liar is tangled and can't escape. But she brought it on herself.
A true friend would never even think about lying to you. Even if the truth is hurtful or not what you were initially expecting to hear, at least you can count on a good friend to tell it to you straight.
She's real, and you wouldn't have it any other way.