There's No Right Time For Love, Success Or Happiness, So Stop Waiting

by Paul Hudson

Timing may not be everything. But it's something. Timing means finding an opportunity in your life when you're mentally and physically prepared to conquer something.

The stars have to align just right to allow you to make the most of the hand you were dealt.

Unfortunately, for the most part, timing is out of our hands. There are always other factors and other people involved.

Getting it right is, in part, luck. It's not all luck, of course. You do have control over yourself and how ready you are to get things done. But sometimes you have control over nothing whatsoever.

To find fortune in business or love, the environment has to be right. Your mindset has to be in the right place, too.

In terms of business success, remember that the mindset of your competition and your consumers matters a lot. This should affect the timing of the proposal or venture you want to pursue.

If you're looking for happiness in love, you need to be sensitive to your partner's current line of thought. If only you is ready for love, that's not enough. If your partner isn't ready, you're going to fail.

Happiness itself depends on factors affecting your mood and perceptions. Timing is essential. Whether you like it or not, time and space in our lives is relative.

If you want to get to a certain place in life, you need to calculate your transition and the time it will take to get there.

But how do you time something just right when there are so many factors completely out of your control? Well, the truth is you can’t. You can never time things precisely right without relying on a bit of luck or faith.

There is no "right time" for love, success or happiness. And this isn't because the right time doesn’t actually exist. It certainly does. But you won't know when it's right until you reach it.

In other words, you’re always going to be shooting in the dark and realizing how precise your timing was only after the fact. But there are some ways you can improve your timing (even if you cannot predict it).

Be smart and observant.

While you may not be able to see and/or understand all the variables at play, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do your best to try and figure them out.

Keep your eyes open. Ask questions. Challenge your beliefs. Challenge the way you see the world and those around you.

Human beings get less observant the longer they stay in a single place or setting. The instinct of observation only kicks in when we find ourselves in a place we aren’t familiar with -- it’s part of our survival mechanism.

If you want to leave wherever it is you are in your life and get to somewhere new -- somewhere better -- then you’re going to need to keep your eyes open for a way out (or for a way IN to wherever it is you want to be).

This applies to getting the man or woman of your dreams or finally kickstarting that career you always hoped for.

Before you can make it to the next level -- regardless of the specifics -- you’re going to need to understand exactly where you are right now.

You must understand the current situation so you can learn how to tweak it to accommodate your hopes and dreams.

Don’t rush things, but never give up.

Don’t push when pushing has no positive result. Easing off the gas isn’t a bad thing when you have no choice but to sit in traffic.

You can push against that brick wall all you want, but until a way through or around it exists, you won’t make any progress.

But don’t think that because you don’t know a way out that one doesn’t exist. Instead of beating a dead horse, devote your time and energy toward finding a way past the obstacle.

Don’t try to find shortcuts because shortcuts in life don’t exist. If you’re going to do something, then do it right, or don’t do it at all. No cutting corners.

Most importantly, never stop pursuing whatever it is you’re pursuing. I’d happily wager that our timing is best when we try less to make that happen.

High achievers usually find success once everyone else has given up. Sometimes refusing to quit the race is enough to win it.

Never compare yourself to others.

The only person you should compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday.

Learn from your mistakes. Learn from your failures. Learn from your successes. Just keep learning and learning and learning.

Competing with other people means constantly trying to keep up with their changing attitudes and beliefs. It's a lost cause. You won’t win.

You can’t beat other people, because they'll always be two steps ahead of you at their own game. Be a winner at your own game.

Be a better version of the person you were yesterday. Be a better athlete, employee, entrepreneur, lover and partner.

Always strive to improve the unique person you are. This is a little secret that only a few people understand. It's the only way to be happy.

Happiness is elusive because circumstances in life are ever-changing. Happiness marks a difference from previous, sadder times. Happiness means that you've experienced a positive difference in your life and are content with your life now.

It feels different than it did before. When you improve a little bit every day, you always have something to be happy about and grateful for.

In life, things will never be perfect. Things will never be exactly the way you want them to be. No matter the subject, nothing will ever be perfect.

Perfection exists only in our heads. We made it up. What you need to be happy is just one thing to be happy about. Remind yourself of the time in your life when you didn't have that one thing.

Think of the positive difference you've made. Keep working on you, and you'll realize that choosing to be happy gets easier.

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