When It Seems Like Things Are Really Falling Apart, They're Just Falling Into Place

by Paul Hudson

Sometimes, in order for everything to come together, things need to fall apart first.

In fact, you hear it all the time – people hitting rock bottom before they bounce back up and soar. It’s difficult to write a new story on a sheet of paper already covered with words, but if you’re given a clean sheet of paper – a clean slate – it’s much easier to create whatever story you’d like.

You have to make room for the new by ridding yourself of the old. Unfortunately, when things really do fall apart for a person, they tend to do so in a rather devastating way.

Staying positive when your world is crumbling around you is no easy task. Yet, in the end, you will see that every negative thing that happened must have happened in order for you to be able to turn your life around.

A lot of what makes up your life is out of your control. Sometimes life will seem good and fair to you. Other times it will seem unfair, seemingly harboring cruel intentions.

What you have to remember is that life itself is neither fair nor unfair; it simply is whatever it happens to be. There is no evil being out there trying to make things difficult for you, trying to trip you so that you stumble and fall.

People… people may try to bring you down, but not life itself. Many find themselves lamenting over their own misfortunes, asking the heavens why they were so unlucky, asking what they did to deserve what they believe to be a punishment. But no one is punishing you. Sometimes bad things happen to good people. It sucks, but it’s the reality of things. You can’t beat yourself up for it.

You have to do your best to hold yourself together and continue pushing forward. In your lifetime, you will experience loss. You will experience sorrow, heartbreak, pain and suffering. How much of each is for chance to decide, but you are likely to experience a little bit of each to some degree or another.

I’m certain of this because it literally happens to everyone. Every person lives these negative experiences; there is no exception. Your experiences will surely differ from those of others, but the pain is just about the same.

You may be special, but not in this regard. Everybody suffers. Everybody loses. Many will give up. Many will accept defeat. But some will find the strength to keep pushing, keep trying, keep dreaming.

When things fall apart for you, which they likely will at least once in your life, you will have a choice you’ll need to make. You can either wallow in your misfortunes or you can decide that such a fate is unacceptable.

You have the power to refuse defeat. You have the strength to withstand any and every blow.

But you have to choose to stay standing. You have to take a hard look at your situation and decide then and there that you are going to make changes, that you are going to turn things around for yourself because you deserve better.

Life may not have been willing to give you happiness, success and glory, but you’re going to take it. It’s this decision that decides the rest of your life.

It’s hard – I know. Sometimes we work for months, years even, only to reach a point when we literally lose everything. We may have made a stupid mistake or we may have simply been unlucky – the reason behind everything falling apart doesn’t matter as much as the way you respond to it.

It will hurt. You will tear up. You may even scream, punch a hole in your wall or drink yourself silly. You may not be able to pull yourself out of bed for a while. You may lock yourself in your apartment for weeks. How you deal with loss is up to you, as long as you deal with it. It won’t be easy, but you must keep going.

It may be impossible for you to see now, but everything falling apart for you may be exactly what you need. It’s when we have nothing to lose that we give life our all. We give life everything we’ve got because we no longer feel that we’ve got much.

Yet, the truth is that we have everything we need. You have you, and that is enough. As long as you have a healthy body and mind, you can accomplish amazing things.

And now that you are carrying much less baggage and your focus is entirely shifted to one goal and one goal only – crawling out of the hole you found yourself in – success is much more likely.

I know it sounds counterintuitive, but everything falling apart for you may bring you inches away from where you want to be. Don’t give up. Always take just one more step.

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