I find it difficult to trust people -- and I’m sure I’m not the only one. When you get screwed over, used, cheated on, it becomes difficult for you to believe anything anyone says.
Everyone is quick to make a promise, but few ever keep those promises. It would be great if we could get through life on our lonesome, but we aren’t built that way.
We need to have other people in our life in order not only to be happy, but to stay sane. This makes things complicated. Who do you trust? Who do you let in to see the real you? Who do you go for to ask for advice?
There is only one type of person that is truly worthy of your trust: the person who has seen you at your worst and decided to stay by your side.
This person probably already knows how to deal with you.
And sometimes that’s exactly what we need -- someone who can manipulate us just enough to get us to do what’s best for us. We like to believe that we know best when it comes to ourselves, but that often isn’t the case.
When we’re already down, we aren’t in the best mindset to be making decisions. We’re most likely unhappy, moody, uncomfortable, antsy and impatient.
But having a person looking from the outside in who can help us regain our stability is often the only way to make it back to the sunnier side of life.
If this person's stuck through this far, he or she is most likely in it for the long run.
I don’t know about you, but my worst is really, really bad. I mean, if I’m that down then I recommend everyone staying far away from me. I get unpleasant, aggressive and prefer isolation.
If you deal with your worst in a similar fashion, having someone in your life who has already been through that with you can be the difference between making or breaking you.
If this person's seen the devil in you and stuck around, he or she's not going anywhere the next time he comes around. You can trust in that.
This person can see you reaching your bottom before you do.
Those who have already seen you hit rock bottom are likely to see the warning signs before you do. It’s difficult to make such observations about ourselves, but having someone looking and analyzing from a distance is a great way to avoid crashing.
If this person has seen this routine before and where it’ll lead you, and he or she warns you that you seem to be heading back, believe it when this person tells you so.
This person has seen you crawl out of that hole and can help you do it again.
When life kicks you in the gut, having someone you can trust is crucial. When you hit the bottom, finding your way back to the top can seem like an impossible task -- even if you’ve done it before. The thing is, every consecutive time you fall into that well, it gets deeper.
The sides get more slippery and your arms get weaker. Getting up once does not guarantee getting up twice. In fact, it makes it more unlikely. You probably can’t do it alone, and if you have someone you can trust then you shouldn’t force yourself to do so.
Don’t be embarrassed; ask for help.
If this person loved you at your worst, he or she will love you at your best.
We’ve all seen the meme floating about the Internet. “If you can’t love me at my worst then you don’t deserve me at my best.” This couldn’t be any truer.
If you have someone in your life who's loved you at your worst then not only will that person love you at your best, he or she will love you no matter what happens in your life, no matter what mistakes you make and no matter how you screw up.
These are the only people you can entirely trust.
The ones who put up with you at your worst are the only people actually worthy of being a part of your life when things start to look up.
Everyone and their brother will want to be your friend when you become a success. When you’re enjoying your life, everyone wants to tag along for the ride. These people want that happiness and prosperity to rub off on them.
But few will stick around when things are looking down. They can’t get anything out of you so they don’t see a point in spending time with you. Only those who have been through your hardships by your side are worthy of sharing in your happiness.
This person loves you for you.
People are both beautiful and incredibly ugly. We all have both light and darkness in our souls. Which shows depends on us and the situations we find ourselves in. Only those who have seen your demons can truly love you for you. They are the only people who know you -- all of you and not just the pleasant side of you.
To love someone truly is to love someone wholly, and the only people who can do that are those who have seen the worst side of you. If they’ve seen your darkness and stick around, you can trust them with your life.
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