This Generation Is Closing The Orgasm Gap, And That's F*cking Awesome

by Alexia LaFata

Whether you're aware of its existence or not, the orgasm gap controls all of our sexual lives.

As a reminder, the orgasm gap is the widely accepted discrepancy in how frequently men orgasm and how frequently women orgasm during sex.

In case your personal sex life wasn't enough of an indicator of what that discrepancy is, here's a hint: Men orgasm way, way more often than women do.

A wide range of biological and social factors contribute to this orgasm gap.

For one, it's physically more difficult for a woman to orgasm, but that's definitely not the most important factor, seeing as the orgasm gap also debunks the myth that the vagina is really that much more difficult to work with.

Socially, women have been taught to suppress their sexuality and to be the objects of sexual desire, not the subjects, and it's these factors that have been embedded into our psyche and prevent us from feeling worthy of pleasure. 

That's why when Nicki Minaj told Cosmo that she demands orgasms, I, and millions of women around the planet, applauded.

She recognized herself as a person who deserves to feel good during sex, and she encouraged all women to do the same.

Personally, I know women who have never orgasmed in their entire lives. And no, it's not because they're physically broken -- they just don't know their worth as sexual beings.

Thankfully, times are changing. And there are data to prove it.

Ansell, the maker of LifeStyles and SKYN Condoms (“SKYN”), released a new survey for 2015 that says Millennials are finally closing the orgasm gap.

The company received over 5,000 responses from males and females ages 18-34 who were happy to report the ways that sex is changing for young people.

Millennials are unafraid to have amazing sex.

It's true that you don't need to have an orgasm to have good sex, but it definitely doesn't hurt.

According to the survey, a record-breaking 89 percent of women said they reach an orgasm during sex.

Considering statistics to support the orgasm gap suggest that women orgasm only once for every three times a man orgasms, this is a huge deal.

Lube and vibrators are also becoming wildly popular among Millennials since we all know those items only make sex that much better.

Fourty-three percent of Millennials make lube a staple part of their sexual experience, and 25 percent do the same with vibrators.

There's no shame in asking for a little help in the pleasure department, as long as it leads to great things.

Millennials are exploring sex earlier.

We Millennials aren't shy about discovering our sexual potential as quickly as we can.

We're losing our virginity at a younger age: 83 percent of 18- to 24-year-olds lost their virginity by age 18, in comparison to 72 percent of 25- to 29-year-olds and 73 percent of 30- to 34-year-olds.

Millennials are embracing new and exciting ways to enjoy sex.

We're tired of boring, vanilla sex. We want to spice things up in the bedroom, so we've embraced some interesting positions.

Millennials' top three favorite sexual positions are doggy style, missionary and cowgirl.

Not surprisingly, men leaned more toward doggy style (it's the view; I'm telling you) while women preferred missionary.

Our cell phones have also become an important part of our sexual experience: 57 percent of Millennials have sexted before -- 7 percent do so daily, and 11 percent do so several times a week.

Additionally, almost half of us have sent nudies: 49 percent of Millennials have sent naked pictures to someone, with 25 percent of those specifically through Snapchat.

Millennials are getting smart.

The older we get and the more educated we become, the smarter Millennials are when it comes to using protection during sex.

A promising 58 percent of Millennials who are currently in college use condoms, compared to 44 percent of Millennials who only have a high school diploma.

Moreover, 66 percent of Millennials with a Ph.D. and 65 percent of Millennials with a master's degree or other professional degree also use condoms. 

Out of every sport and recreational activity, surfers use condoms the most frequently -- 75 percent of the time.

Millennials have big-time celeb crushes.

We have high standards when it comes to the celebs we want to bone.

Women love Adam Levine, Chris Hemsworth and Ryan Gosling the most, and men love Megan Fox, Scarlett Johansson and Emma Watson.

Millennials use sex to celebrate.

We'd all like to thank Jeremih for making "Birthday Sex" a thing: A whopping 79 percent of Millennials have had sex on a birthday.

A close second was Valentine's Day, during which 73 percent of Millennials have done the deed.