Yury Goryanoy

Proof That Getting Married Young Will Not Ruin The Rest Of Your Life

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I recently just started my life with my "forever and always." It's funny because I never pictured myself settling down early. I never dreamed of the whole fairytale wedding, white dress or white cake deal.

What can I say? Sometimes, your plans don't go as planned. Sometimes, you fall in love.

Then, you need to change your plans.

As I said, I never went through the whole "dreaming of my future wedding" phase as a kid. But if I did, I don't think I would have prepared for the negativity and unwanted opinion I received as a result.

To all the people who say getting married young has a higher chance of ending in divorce:

A successful marriage is built on many things, and age is not one of them. Marriage takes effort, and it is a big commitment. If you don't take it seriously, it could end in divorce, regardless of what age you are.

Maturity doesn't come with an age requirement. Marriage deserves unconditional love, and if you are mature enough -- not old enough, but mature enough -- to love unconditionally, I wouldn't worry so much about your marriage failing.

To all the people who say getting married young will result in us not being financially stable:

Being poor together is better than being poor alone. Let's face it: Being young and straight out of college will leave you feeling light in the pocket, regardless of whether you have someone or not.

There are many dates you can do together that don't cost a lot of money. Besides, I would rather go on a picnic, build a fort or watch movies with my hubby than spend money on expensive drinks at the club any day.

To all the people who say getting married young will destroy my youth: 

Society, simply put, has a strange view of youth these days. Let me say that no number of nights out clubbing, mornings hugging the toilet bowl or bathroom selfies with the girls are worth refraining from marriage to "keep your youth."

My husband and I do many things to keep our youth, and quite honestly, not too much has changed. We still go out with friends and go to parties.

The difference? I went from being a party animal to being a part of a party animal duo. That's actually better.

To all the people who say getting married young will destroy my dreams:

Don't be silly. My dreams, goals or even plans will not change as a result of my marriage. But you do start to form mutual goals.

You start to plan for your future together, and that makes me happy. Why? Because that means I will get to achieve my dreams with my best friend.

Best of all, you won't have to do all that traveling alone. I hear that scuba diving in Chile is much more fun with your best friend anyway.

To all the people who say I got married before I "found myself:"

I have the opportunity to get to know myself while getting to know my best friend. How cool is that?

I know that at the end of my lifetime, I will still be learning things about myself and my husband. There is a lot of learning to do.

I'm grateful I have the opportunity to start now. I wouldn't want to miss anything.

Another plus is the fact that we can grow together. Isn't that what marriage is all about? Becoming one instead of staying two?

I've seen the changes my husband has made from a young age. I've seen him grow and become better. I love him even more because of this.

To all the people who are committed to getting married at a young age:

Marriage is a wonderful thing, and you should not sacrifice it out of fear. I knew I was ready when I was ready.

So when you know, trust yourself. You'll be happier than you realize.