We've all been the hounded or the hounders.
Either way, we just want answers.
But are all of our efforts genuine when you really look at them?
Here's a list of questions and comments that almost immediately exit the sympathy bus and hop on the insult train:
This blatant remark will never be settling, no matter what race you are or how attractive you want to be perceived.
In a matter of a sentence, you managed to completely dissect a person based on what race he or she is, and to top it off, you generalized a group of people on your way to the insult lane.
Since when does anyone of any race have visual guidelines to adhere to?
Since when is it okay to consider some people a commodity because they aren’t within the visual, falsely created image of their race?
2. "Aren’t you tired of being alone?"
If you could imagine a double-edged sword in word form, it would be this question.
Sometimes being alone, especially after a massive breakup, doesn’t have an expiration date.
If anything, I should be insulted that you don’t think my solidarity is fulfilling enough to keep me going.
3. "You’re actually going to eat all of that?"
Yes, I am (and your little dog, too).
There’s nothing worse than ordering a meal, and then being force-fed this question.
If I ordered it, I want it.
I'm not doing the calculations of its size, just as long as it can fit into my mouth.
My stomach and I have this everlasting agreement. It growls, and I feed it.
4. "You’re skinny."
This is you judging me.
Body-shaming isn’t just pointed at one size, people. It goes both ways.
Calling someone skinny is just like calling someone fat.
You’ve taken four seconds out of your day to tell me something about myself that is peculiar or out of the ordinary to you.
So yes, it’s insulting.
5. "Are you sick?"
This seems odd, but it is most relevant for the times you decide to ease up a little on the makeup for one day.
Oh, shun me for running 15 minutes late and not having time to put on a face a little more comfortable for you.
Or hey, maybe I want to attain that natural beauty all those make-up products are trying to sell me anyway.
6. "Maybe you’re looking in the wrong places."
We’re back to my love life.
Or are we, since you think I have absolutely no sense of direction?
Where is the “right” direction? There isn’t one.
We are all just moseying around, hoping we’re going down the right paths.
Sometimes it works out, and sometimes it doesn’t.
Let’s not blame our compasses.
7. "Have you seen (enter ex’s name) around?"
You have a better chance of asking me if I managed to perform open-heart surgery on a squirrel with two heads.
Are you calling me weak-willed?
Do you think that if I break up with somebody, I’m utterly desperate to get back with him or her because I can’t stand being alone?
I haven’t seen this person, and if you’re my real friend, neither have you.
8. "You’re wearing that?"
It’s all about the undertone here, but you get the gist.
If articles of clothing are on my body and my keys are in my hand, chances are, I am wearing this out.
No matter how outlandish it is, you accept it and love it.
9. "Maybe you should slow down."
Since when are two glasses of wine a warrant for an AA intervention?
Most encounters with this statement happen moments after the few sips of your second glass (or bottle, but nobody's counting).
10. "Come on. It can’t be that bad."
This is so general, it hurts.
Any hardship or frustration you confess can be associated with this.
If I’m blabbing my heart out, it must be bad for me to some degree.
Why are you judging my “bad?”
What did it ever do to you?