How To Tell A Friend From A Foe: 4 Characteristics Of A True Friend

by Carolyn Correia

Finding genuine friends isn't easy. Good people don't come along every day, so it’s important that we hold onto the ones we find who are loyal and true. All of us have been burned in the past by people who we thought were keepers, but unfortunately, that’s just how the cookie crumbles.

True friends are not petty, competitive, haughty or judgmental. They listen and value your opinion, even if it may differ from their own. Here are some tips on how to avoid those mistakes and spot the real from the fake from a distance:

They Know You Inside Out

Your friends understand you better than anyone else on this planet... sometimes even better than your family. They know when you are having a bad day and how to cheer you up. They don’t hold it against you because they know this is not consistent with who you are.

True friends always try to look for your positive qualities and let them outweigh the negative because you know what? Everyone has their own foibles and your weaknesses don’t take away from you being a good and loyal comrade.

True friends are your personal cheerleaders and always support your dreams, no matter how lofty. They have faith in you to no end and encourage you to be the best you can be. They are the chicken soup for your heart and soul.

Selfless Giving

You know you have found a true gem when you’re having a bad day and he or she comes to your rescue -- even if the friend may be experiencing problems of his or her own. Whether he or she is at work or engaged in other activities, a true friend will still make the time for you and lend a listening ear.

Even if it’s the same crap he or she has heard several times before, a true friend tries to remain calm and pacify the situation. Of course, it’s a two-way street and you also provide that support in his or her time of need.

Always Make Up

Some friends never fight after many decades of friendship; I have several friendships like that. Others go at it all the time… I suppose that’s how they show their love.

When two people really care about each other, no amount of fighting can destroy a bond based on years of friendship and good times.

If, however, certain lines and codes of conduct were crossed, you must make a decision and choose whether you can forgive and forget. It’s human nature to have disagreements and quarrels from time to time, but if it’s petty enough, true friends always make up, no matter what.

Always In Your Corner

True friends stick up for one another, no matter what. When someone else has done you wrong, they get just as angry as you and make no excuses. They are there for you when you fall and help you to put the pieces back together. They never leave your side. That’s what true friendship is all about.

We all strive to find friends that complement us. The ones who make it to the end should enrich your life and vice versa. Friendship is a give and take; no one is a burden to the other.

You share an unbreakable bond that traverses space and time, regardless if you haven’t spoken or seen each other in weeks, months or even years.

The friendship is still there and can withstand the good times and bad, no matter if one or both of you have little or nothing to give. The important thing is that you have each other. Infinite thanks and cheers to all of my true gems!

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