Getting Denied At A Nightclub Is A Race Issue No One's Talking About
We go clubbing to get away, celebrate with our friends, flirt with strangers or drink our sorrows away.
In either one of the occasions, shouldn't every ethnicity and body shape be accepted into any venue -- popular or trashy -- to party and dance to the music all night?
I'm short at 5'2.
I'm skinny, and some might say I'm too skinny or too petite, but regardless of what they think, I'm not writing this because I want people to feel sorry for me.
Nor do I want you to feel pity for my friend, who was denied entrance to a nightclub in London because she was "too fat."
I'm writing this for everyone out there who needs someone to stand up for them.
Because when it comes down to it, I think we are all the same and should be treated equally, regardless of how we look.
That is the reason why nightclub discrimination needs to stop ASAP.
In the fall of 2014, all students in our school program were asked to find an internship.
Since we lived in Copenhagen, London was the obvious chose for many of us.
I rented a room through AirBnB in the center of London, and when I mentioned meeting two of my classmates for drinks, my London-roommate quickly gave me the number of a promoter she knew.
As the three Danish girls, we were ready for a fun night.
We went through Oxford Street in the mid-October cold in our high heels and party dresses, and made our way to the club.
The promoter texted me earlier saying it "was where all the fun was happening tonight."
The entrance queue was long, but I quickly found the promoter I was set up with.
We waited for a while at the promoter's queue, while I noticed a lot of girls getting denied entrance at the club.
Suddenly the promoter asked me if he could have a word with me, and he told me straight up:
Listen, we can't let you and your friends in because your friend is just -- well, she is too ... big.
I was so stunned by what he said.
I felt shocked and disgusted.
He was not even joking.
Trying to make things better, he sent us off to one of the less-classy clubs in London, where apparently, everyone is welcome, regardless of gender and weight.
I never told my friends the reason that we didn't get in.
I found an excuse so I wouldn't hurt her, and so we wouldn't end up having a horrible night.
Now, a year later, people are still experiencing this discrimination at entrances of nightclubs.
This problem needs to stop.
The problem is way more global than we just might think.
People are getting denied at doors every weekend, but often it's not something they feel like sharing with the media, as they were just told "they wouldn't fit in with tonight's crowd."
Though, two weeks ago there was a break-through that caught the media's attention.
Four women were denied at the posh London nightclub, DSTRKT, as they were told "the guest list was full."
Though their documentation of the pre-denial in a WhatsApp chat with a promoter contact showed otherwise.
After they were denied entrance at DSTRKT, they were told to wait at a wall across the street, for the manager to size them up through the CCTV camera.
The promoter told one of the girls, she was "too dark," and later wrote that the club manager thought they were "overweight."
This evolved into a protest holding up signs stating "#DOILOOKDSTRKT?", and the girls are now running a campaign to close down the club, with huge support.
Honestly, I do hope they close down the nightclub and that it gets a horrible reputation.
I find the so-called, "reject wall" used to size people up absolutely ridiculous.
This isn't a casting for Victoria's Secret, but just four girls who wanted a fun night.
This is happening all around the world.
Last month, a man was refused entry at a nightclub in Melbourne, Australia because "there were too many men in the club."
He is now standing up for his rights in a lawsuit against the nightclub, based on gender discrimination.
A nightclub in Germany had to face huge consequences, due to its door policy of "no foreigners" in the club.
The owners thought of the policy as "exclusive, not racist," but the court luckily thought otherwise.
Last year in Copenhagen, a national newspaper made an experiment of sending in two retired women to one of the most popular clubs there.
The situation was recorded through a hidden camera, and after long discussions with the bouncers, they were eventually told to leave, as they "wouldn't fit into the age group of tonight's crowd."
Why this is a huge issue for our generation:
Nightclub discrimination is a huge deal, even though it does not seem like a serious issue.
Basically, the discrimination of skin colors and body shapes happening at the entrances of club venues, goes against everything our generation, and previous generations, have fought for.
What happened to equality for everyone, regardless of body shape and skin color?
What happened to our human ideals?
It frustrates me how we can we so obsessed with body images in the modeling industry, and the ethnicity of presidential candidates.
But we never think of the bouncers who get to sort through the crowd in search for the "pretty" and "skinny" girls that will give their club a good reputation.
This is 2015.
We are allowing gay marriages and female presidents, but the finest nightclubs are still only for the people with thin waistlines and pretty jawbones.
All while the "leftovers" end up at the nasty bars filled with smoke and bad beer.
I am fully in favor of rejections based on dress code issues, or if people do not fill the age requirement.
The finest clubs often require the finest outfits, which makes sense.
But it should never come down to ethnicity, gender or size.
That is not something you or anyone can change.
It's just who you are.
And no one should ever judge you based on that.