4 Ways To Figure Out If You're Stopping Yourself From Getting What You Want

by Kailyn Bowman
Jeremy Pawlowski

We all want massive success. There is not one person in this world who has never had a big dream. That being said, the question then becomes, why is it that so few are able to actualize their dreams into real, tangible forms?

Questions such as these have kept me interested in the study of the human mind and with that, our motives and beliefs. What research, along with personal experience, has taught me is that we cannot go anywhere if we are mentally and emotionally blocked.

Now, you're probably thinking, "OK, but how do I know if I am blocked?"

Here are a few ways to know you're blocking yourself from reaching your optimum level of success:

1. You feel the need to exert a lot of effort.

When you are unblocked and living freely, life will feel effortless. Work will not be work; it will become so fulfilling that you will ask yourself if it's actually work you're doing.

2. You've lost control of your emotions.

Snapping on people over trivial matters is a huge indication that you have blocked your natural flow. When you are in the flow, all of your relationships will be meaningful and fulfilling.

3. Things don't go your way.

Now, I am a firm believer in the idea that we should always expect miracles in our life. In fact, when things aren't going our way, something has gone wrong. Life wants to work with you, but when you are blocking that natural flow, it will feel as if the world is against you.

4. You no longer have clarity.

Remember the feeling of knowing exactly what you want and having the complete faith in who you are? Well, that is the feeling of being one with yourself. That is the flow.

Now that we are aware of ways in which we may be disconnected from our truth, let's begin to delve into just how we can step back into our power.

I have found one thing to always hold true. When we love ourselves, everything else falls into place. However, too many people preach this need to love ourselves without providing enough concrete advice and knowledge to actually make it a reality.

So, I want to do that for you. Luckily, I have been able to clarify and break it down into its simplest terms. When we aren't able to love ourselves, it's because somewhere along the way, we've neglected who we are. But deep down, all this means is that we haven't forgiven ourselves for something.

You see, the moment we forgive ourselves is the moment we are able to love ourselves again. Think about how you feel when you forgive someone else. You may have built up years and years of anger, and then when you finally decide to forgive that person, you are able to see him or her with love.

There may still be issues that arise, but what's most important is that you no longer hold onto past pain and hurt. The reason we feel such relief when we forgive is because that letting go of pain is creating a doorway to love.

Before stepping into the greatness that you so much deserve, you have to take the time to heal your own heart. Always remember this is your life, and the greatest relationship you will ever have is with yourself. In fact, your relationship with yourself is the determining factor of how all of your other relationships will manifest. Step into your greatest power, and have the courage to forgive. See what beautiful blessings life has just waiting for you.

This article was originally published on the author's personal blog.