Who is nice and who is fake? That’s all we’re really trying to figure out, isn’t it? It seems like such a simple concept, but when you get deep down into it, it's actually a lot more complicated than you'd think.
It's about meeting new people and getting sucker-punched by them after you thought all they actually wanted to do was be your friend.
It's about thinking people are being genuine when they say you're their friend, but you're really nothing more than a stepping stone along their paths.
You're usually left in the dark wondering where in the hell all these fake people came from and desperately searching just to find some nice ones.
I'm gonna break it down for you right now. It’s almost impossible to decipher who is nice from who is fake without thinking of a million people who have let you down, all those people who just pretended to be your friends, but really weren’t there when it came down to it.
You remember them as you think back, and can recall all those moments they enticed you with their open arms and big hellos.
They were just so goddamn nice that you figured they were going to be your friends. But they weren’t. They were just extending an olive branch for moment, teasing you with it.
You must be careful of fake people. They have their own hidden agenda, an agenda hidden far beyond. They are a sleazy little pawn in their own game of life and they will try to use you to advance themselves in this rat race to nowhere.
They will be these amazing people for week, a month, (hopefully you didn’t keep them around longer than a year, but it happens) and then they show themselves, their true ugly selves.
You see them as they tried to use you, see your small state in their grand play and you fall to the wayside, when you thought you were just confiding in someone good, someone genuine.
How did that just happen? It’s like you were just bitch-slapped. Every time you fall into the trap of meeting a fake person, you come out the other side, wondering where you missed the signs.
After this encounter, why haven’t you learned to just weed out the fake and the nice?
As you’re well aware of, these people do a pretty damn good job of hiding their fake essence, and even though we’ve all encountered too many of the sort, we still get tricked up by the slimy buggers.
Who wouldn’t? They come in with their glowing hellos and their big balloons and over-reaching promises.
It’s almost impossible to tell what fake is until you’ve been through the ringer and come out the other side with a few good friends hanging on, and if you’re still reading this, you know what I’m talking about.
So I’m going to try to break it down to its bare bones, the withered endpoints and give you just a few telltale signs of what it looks like when someone is being real and someone is being fake:
Nice is doing an act of kindness; fake is telling someone about it after.
Nice is genuine; fake is insincere.
Nice is warmly answering the door; fake is kissing both cheeks.
Nice is checking in on a friend; fake is sending a check.
Nice is being a good person; fake is trying to be a friend.
Nice is being there when you have a call; fake is chewing your ear off.
Nice is just being there; fake is always wanting to be there.
Nice is being there with your wallet; fake it trying to get in it.
Nice is holding a door; fake is slamming it halfway there.
Nice is being kind; fake is being some kind of way.
Nice is holding a cup of coffee; fake is always buying you one.
Nice is listening to your stories; fake is always telling stories.
Nice is being accountable; fake is being relatable.
Nice is being real; fake is being on the "Real World."
Nice is always around; fake is only there when it's convenient.
Nice is lending a hand; fake is giving a gift.
Nice is being good to you; fake is only giving it to you good.
Nice is hello; fake is always goodbye.
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