7 Ways Your Life Gets Better When You Stop Taking Everything Personally

By Gigi Engle

Life is too short for sh*tty sex, sh*tty opinions and sh*tty people.

I can’t recall who exactly gave me this tidbit of excellent advice; it might actually be from Pinterest, who knows?

Regardless of its origin, it really stuck with me. Why should you waste time caring about people who suck and who seem to suck the life out of you?

The key to clarity is to just stop taking everything so personally. Stop getting so offended and butthurt about every single, little thing.

You may think you’re exhibiting resilience by constantly having a negative visceral response to the things people say or do, but you just come off as pigheaded and overdramatic.

It’s not all about you. It’s usually about someone else being unhappy with his or her life. He or she is complaining about stuff that isn't directed at you. Get over yourself. For real.

When you take sh*t personally, you’re setting yourself up for failure. You can’t have a balanced life while you’re busy stressing about the crap that’s happening with the inconsequential people around you.

Just because it feels like this “aggression” is directed at you, about 95 percent of the time, the “aggressor” doesn’t even know you’re present, let alone that you care enough to directly insult you or your beliefs.

Even if it is, whatever!

The only way to achieve a healthy, happy life is by deciding not to let other people affect you and to start relying on your own fabulous self for validation.

You can’t please everyone, and you just have to accept that and move on.

Not caring about nonsense is a sign of confidence. It means you have the strength of will to ignore the bullsh*t and focus on yourself and your own happiness. You’re not busy wasting your time on the opinions of others.

The only opinion that matters is your own. F*ck the haters; they’re just unhappy with their sad lives. Don’t let them bring you down.

1. You find a freedom you never knew you needed

The last thing you need is to trap yourself in your own, self-constructed box of discomfort. There is no greater feeling of release than that of letting go of the baggage of others.

When you allow yourself to get wrapped up in drama, you can never see the bigger picture.

Once you truly stop allowing what others say and do directly affect your mood, that is when you have sincerely removed the shackles of the cattiness that pinned you down.

2. Your anxiety levels will decrease

Suddenly, you come to understand half of the things keeping you up at night were completely pointless. They were shallow, silly anxieties that were bred from your insecurity.

Once you’ve found the fortitude to let go of the negative and rise above it, you’ll find the peace of mind you so desperately crave. If you’re going to worry about something, make sure it’s worth it.

3. You learn to brush sh*t off

Even if someone doesn’t like you, it shouldn’t matter. F*ck ‘em. You’ll finally learn what is worth dealing with and what isn’t.

You’ll have to look inside of yourself and decide what is really important to you.

When you stop taking valueless things to heart, you’ll be able to turn your back on the stuff that only weighs you down instead of what lifts you up.

4. You digest the fact that not everything is about you

You’ll start recognizing everyone else’s insecurities are not a reflection of you. Just because someone says something that offends you, it doesn’t denote flying off the handle into a psychotic frenzy.

You have to realize people say and do sh*tty things. That doesn’t make their behavior your problem. You don’t need to get sensitive about every single thing.

You need to be better than that to move on from it. There is so much beauty in the world; you just have to choose to see it.

5. If someone doesn’t agree with what you say, who even cares?

You really have to ask yourself what the viewpoints of those around you really mean to you.

If someone has a different opinion on an issue, whether it be personal, social or political, that doesn’t mean he or she is invested in this standpoint for the sole purpose of causing you mental distress.

If someone else’s beliefs don’t align with yours, who really cares?

We’re all entitled to think whatever we’d like to. You can’t have a meaningful debate if you’re consistently getting emotional.

Even if you’re incredibly passionate about an issue, nothing anyone says should have an adverse effect on your sanity.

It is in no way worth it. Just stick to your guns and agree to disagree.

6. Your relationships will be stronger

Nothing will strengthen your relationships like the conscious choice to stop sweating the small stuff.

When you’re secure with yourself, only then can you be secure in outside relationships.

Your friends will stop worrying about your tendency to lose your cool over everything, and your SO will love that you’re no longer using things he or she says against him or her when there was zero ulterior motive in the first place. Everyone is just trying to LIVE.

7. You’ll just be happier

The most crucial point to make is how your state of mind and health will greatly benefit the moment you stop taking sh*t personally.

You’ll finally be free from the unhealthy baggage of those around you and unobstructed from taking control of your own life and your own path.

Anything anyone has to say about you, they can choke on it. You know who you are, and that is all that matters.