It is astonishing how many people dislike or fear the idea of being alone. Being alone with your thoughts generally isn't as bad as most people make it out to be. In fact, it is the opposite. Thoughts and memories to which you would usually never pay attention start flowing in and can make for a refreshing experience.
For many people, being alone begets feeling bored and/or depressed. Often, people keep the wrong company just to avoid being alone. And, by "wrong company," I mean people with whom you have nothing in common.
They might be the best company for someone else, but don’t quite fit the bill for you. In other words, you do not share the same values or principles.
How can you tell whether you are in the wrong company? Well, whenever you feel you must "meet" someone can serve as a good indicator. Also, if you are unable to take time for yourself because of the pressure to meet certain people, you are better off without them.
If people with whom you hang out spend excessive time gossiping about topics that aren't important to you, distance yourself and take some alone time. If these people love you, they'll understand, and if they don't, well, it's probably for the best, anyway.
Here's why learning to spend time alone will be far more rewarding than hanging out with the wrong company:
1. Bad company makes you an average person
Sometimes, people may look down on those who spend time alone because they are probably afraid to spend any time alone. The truth is alone time or “me time” can be rewarding if you know how to be alone with yourself. You can develop hobbies and work on skills to make yourself better than an average person.
Bad company will always hold you back from being your happy self. No matter how strong you are, bad company will always leave a negative impact on you in some way. Life is too short to compromise with your standards by giving your precious time and energy to the wrong people.
2. If you have trouble taking alone time, you probably need it the most
People who fear alone time tend to be the ones who need it most. We all have areas in our lives that need time and attention, and in today's fast-paced world, we sometimes forget about things that mean the most to us. Being alone helps us return to ourselves and address our deeply-rooted issues, which we generally tend to ignore.
3. Time to catch up
We should consider ourselves lucky when we get some time to be on our own in today's crazy digital age. Alone time gives us the space to breathe, put things into perspective and maintain our sanity when there are a gazillion other things happening simultaneously.
4. Develop skills and give time to hobbies
It is important to keep learning throughout our lives. Self-development is important at every age and every stage of life. Alone time gives us the time to read, write, exercise, play, pray, meditate, love, heal and observe the world in which we live. We can use this time to develop our skills and turn our hobbies into passions.
5. Time to evolve
People who take "me time" are more evolved than people who are constantly in other people's company. They evolve into better human beings and are more confident about their life's purpose.
6. Mentally and physically fit
People who spend time alone are mentally and physically healthier than people who don't. They believe in working hard but also hugely value their recovery time. Just like we need time for physical rest after a long workday, our brain also needs time to switch off from processing information all day long.
"Me time" helps to calm our overactive brains and empty the mind of all the information we collect from various sources every second of the day. In today's digital age where there are so many distractions and temptations, being alone with yourself, with nature or even with your loved ones is a blessing.
It is important to engage our valuable time in doing things that make us better, happier and more playful.
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