What To Do When Other People's Drama Becomes Your Own
You just met friends for lunch, and you’ve learned your high school BFF is single and pregnant; the very young couple who got married a year ago just filed for a divorce, and your high school valedictorian dropped out of college and doesn’t seem to be doing much of anything.
Lately, it seems like everyone has so much drama to deal with. What’s going on? Let me tell you:
It’s none of your business.
We all fall victim to feeling like we should know everything about everyone all the time because we live in a world where information is so easily accessible to us.
But, have you ever stopped to think about how little it really pertains to your own life?
You actually don’t need to know why Angela died her hair purple and now only posts pictures of her new tattoos.
Your world will keep spinning if you never hear exactly why the couple you thought would last forever can’t stand to be around each other anymore.
...And that’s good.
You really have enough to worry about already. There’s absolutely no reason to waste time sitting around on Facebook, or gossiping with people and trying to “figure out what happened” to people you barely ever speak to.
Other people aren’t just distractions.
We have this terrible tendency to dehumanize one another because the only interactions we have are Instagram likes.
That doesn’t mean you have to go spend time with every single person you’re friends with on Facebook, but you have to remember other people have emotions.
The situation you’re silently judging behind your computer screen has a lot more going on within it than you’ll ever understand. Other people’s struggles and drama do not exist for our entertainment.
We all have our own issues.
You’re lying to the world and yourself if you don’t have at least one situation in your life that people continue to ask you about that you would love to never speak of again.
It could be something that happened years ago, or it could be an issue you’re currently in the middle of.
You certainly don’t want people poking their noses into your personal life, so there’s no reason for you to worry yourself with trying to know all the details about someone else’s.
When you finally realize this, you'll feel free.
It is literally freeing to hear about a dramatic situation about someone you know of, realize the drama is none of your business and continue on with your day.
The moment might even feel a little bit like an epiphany. This doesn’t mean you neglect people you know who may be experiencing a rough time and might need a friend; this just means all the “juicy details” of someone’s latest breakup are his or her own details that you really don’t need to worry about.
You can stop wasting your time trying to learn everything about everyone else’s lives, and you can focus more on the exciting one you’re on this earth to live.
At the end of the day, you should really be focusing on number one, not trying to distract yourself by tracking other people’s drama or, even worse, inserting yourself into it.
It’s actually a beautiful freedom to have the ability to step away from people’s breakups, career woes, family fights and nights spent in the slammer, and just go about your business.