Personally, I would never trust anyone who’s overly nice. I don’t want to tell anyone what to do, or whom to trust, but that’s just how I feel. I mean, think about it. Is anybody ever really that nice or that happy without having ulterior motives?
There are times in life that are just genuinely sh*tty. If they don’t faze you, I start to question what you could possibly be hiding. And you know exactly the type of people I’m referring to.
You’ll be standing on a packed 7 train in the middle August, like a sweat-infused tin of sardines, with fluid from the air conditioning dripping on your forehead like new age Chinese water torture.
You can sense everyone standing in your vicinity rolling their eyes, except one middle-aged man, who’s inexplicably grinning from ear-to-ear. As if he’s amused.
Just visualize that. You can’t help but start to question his ulterior motives. Anger and aggression are essential human qualities, and while they might be a bitch to deal with when regarding your roommate or mother, they’re vital to the whole mind-body connection.
When you’re missing one of these traits, or are overly abundant in another, like kindness, the whole “recipe” becomes unbalanced. Think of someone who’s overly nice as, like, an overly sweet piece of cheesecake.
Sure, after your first bite, you think you’re indulging in the finest wedge of cake you’ve ever encountered. However, by about bite three, you realize the cake is TOO sweet and really just makes you nauseated. This same type of thing happens with people who are TOO nice.
After a while, sweetness gets old, and you want realness instead. While nice people are fantastic individuals, it doesn’t mean they’re always trustworthy. Confusing kindness for honesty can be a fatal error. I’ll explain.
You DEFINITELY shouldn’t trust anyone who’s overly nice regarding anything fashion. I’ll explain. It was the first day of 5th grade, and to be honest, I was just super stoked about starting middle school.
Middle school was big-doing, back in the day, take it from me. You went from tables in elementary school to desks, cubbies to lockers, cooties to making out with girls. To say the least, I was feeling myself.
I remember the scene perfectly. I ran into the kitchen and yelled, “HEY MA, HOW DO I LOOK?” She told me “like the most handsome boy I’ve ever seen,” and with that, I jumped on the bus, hoping for a magical start to my middle school career.
Literally speaking, though. That was the issue. It was during my big “Harry Potter" phase, which aptly preceded my “first rebellious phase,” and I was dressed like a student of Hogwarts Academy. OBVIOUSLY, my wizard looking ass got damn near laughed off the bus.
Truly, my mom was only trying to be nice though, by telling me I looked handsome as opposed to suggesting I go upstairs and put on a basketball jersey. However, if she didn’t worry so much about hurting my feelings – within the privacy of our own kitchen – she would’ve saved me years of humiliation among my peers.
My mother is a saint, but let’s be real, after that day I knew I couldn’t trust her fashion sense. Not in a bad way, just because I didn’t know if she was keeping it a stack with the boy. That’s the main take home point here.
In life, a lot of the times, hearing the truth sucks. Whether it be pertaining to the girlfriend or boyfriend that you’ve been suspecting is cheating or waiting for the results of some test you didn’t really prepare for. Hence, if you want the truth – try to avoid people who are considered “nice.”
To help put that in perspective, think of “kindness” and “honesty” as the second cousins of character traits. They’re kind of related, but technically have nothing to do with one another. And that’s the problem with a lot of nice people, they’re afraid to hurt others’ feelings.
Sure, MOST nice people will also be honest – simply because honesty is USUALLY a “nice” trait to exhibit. But not always.
A lot of nice people WON’T be honest in an attempt to uphold their kindness. However, I remind you, white lies are still lies. And they can end up causing a lot more issues than plain old honesty, and a touch of chutzpah.
If you want the truth, find an assh*le. They’ll always tell it straight.
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