The majority of Generation-Y possesses the habit of being anti-social. Everyday, I experience someone stating or showing why they can't trust people. I have found that Gen-Yers have a tendency to act as if everyone is out to get us. We seem to walk around with our guards up when in social environments like no one is genuinely interested in getting to know who we are, but rather, everyone already has a preconceived negative notion of whom we are.
A lot of people in today's society may have loose screws in their heads, but trust me, not everybody is out to get you. Believe it or not, people do exist outside of our families and closest friends who are rooting for our success. It's great to have a good circle of supportive friends. Friends play a huge role in your life. The friends that you surround yourself with help build and shape you into the person you are, as you help shape them into the people they are.
You endure all with your friends, from the good times to the bad times, to the craziest times of your life. But through all of the struggles and disagreements, you create a strong bond with a group of individuals who all want the same thing in life: to live a successful life and be surrounded by successful people.
I hear people often say that you can’t rely on anyone but yourself. I do agree that certain things are solely for the self, and being alone isn’t necessarily a negative. There are periods in our lives when being alone is needed in order for personal growth. There are times when we just have to focus on ourselves, learn to enjoy our own company and learn to love ourselves. However, if you find yourself becoming a loner, with very little friends as your support group, this is when it becomes alarming.
In reality, no one wants to be alone, at least not forever. When you surround yourself with a group of individuals you can call your friends and individuals you can rely on, it’s as if you have both a team and a support system that's in it for you for the long haul. Spending time with your friends, you will learn your likes, dislikes, how you deal with situations, etc. You will slowly better understand yourself and the people you connect with best.
Make sure your social circle is made up of individuals you can count on and trust. Especially when you're dealing with hard times, you need friends that will be there for you when you need them the most and ones that will not judge you for the good or bad decisions you make. You will easily discover who your real friends are when you're down and out.
There might come times when friends who you thought would be there forever end up being negative factors in your life. This is okay. There are genuine, good friends out there. You live and you learn. They can help you become motivated, they can help you with your current situations, whether its school work, problems with the opposite sex, or even the closest personal issues. Your circle of friends will always have your back. Plus, the best memories are always created when you're around your most special friends.
With your inner circle of homies, you will create the best of times, the times you will look back on years later and still burst out laughing. The kind of times you will tell your kids about. You also learn to appreciate the good people who still exist in this world because of your friends.
We're all here on this planet to not only make something of ourselves, but also to leave our mark in the most memorable manner. It's our job to touch those around us with our friendship and support. You can help change how your friends live their lives, how they bounce back from the lowest of times, and how they learn to love themselves.
As we meet new people and expand our social circles, we will encounter individuals from all walks of life, all with unique stories to tell and personalities to share. These people will help us in more ways than we can imagine, but mostly, they will help us to broaden our outlook on life. It's true that people will come and go all throughout your life, but there will always be those who are here to stay.
You don't have to have a huge entourage of friends; in the end, you will be able to count your most genuine, trustworthy friends on one hand. This life is about the people you share it with; make the most of it. Surround yourself with good people and always be a good person in return.
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