Why If You Have Nothing Nice To Say, You Really Should Say Nothing

by Kirsten Corley

We all have seem to have forgotten the golden rule that we learned early on, which landed us in timeout if we didn't follow it.

If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all.

Time and time again, we bring negativity into our lives without realizing the negative things we say about people are like boomerangs.

As someone who is quick to please and enjoys making people happy, the world of negativity and heavy criticism has come my way via my writing online.

It's hard sometimes to put your thoughts out there and refrain from reading comments from people who do not know you, but who feel obligated to reply just because they have a keyboard and an opinion.

I learned early on to not read comments. I know I am nowhere near perfect and I appreciate constructive feedback, but whether it is online or anywhere else, people often forget the impact their words have.

A person's words are the most powerful things he or she has. It's your job to keep them positive and reliable. So, if you have something to say, first ask whether it will hurt someone. Second, ask how what you say will benefit someone.

We often fail to realize the negative affects our words have. I believe in karma. If you speak badly about someone, then the universe will correct it in some way.

No one is perfect, and sometimes, you need to just rant and complain. But, once you are done, revisit your thought process. We must learn that negative words lead to a negative life. Remove the words "awful" and "hate" from your vocabulary.

If you are on social media, think before you post or say something: "Does this send out negative energy to anyone reading this?" If the answer is "yes," why post it?

Sometimes, I get it; people need to vent, but I came to realize that any negative things I ever posted or said or brought into a situation only made my life worse.

I learned to send out positive energy, to love more and channel any emotions that aren't positive into something healthy. Our words are a domino effect for life. If someone says something mean to you, turn away from it. Do not let it enter your bubble.

You can completely create your own happiness by choosing your words carefully and being self-aware of how you respond to situations.

It's not always easy to keep your cool, but if you think about something before you say it and realize what the words will do to the situation, you'll be able to make more thoughtful decisions.

Think of everything you say as a mirror. Yes, you may be insulting someone else, but it will come back to you. When you speak negatively about someone, it doesn’t reflect the person; it reflects you and your own insecurity.

The best types of people in the world do not have time to badmouth others; they know the value of their words.

We learned early on that if you don't have anything nice to say, you shouldn't say it at all. While we can't control the words people say to us, we can choose whether we accept those words and let them influence us.

We can’t help if someone hurts us, but if you do not respond to negative words, positive will likely come out of it.

None of us are perfect, and mean words will slip out from time to time, but if we can learn anything and if I have learned anything, it is the power of words put together.

Your words can either bring people higher or knock them down, and let me tell you, the moment you use words to hurt someone, the person will never forget it.

Please remember the only words you regret more than the ones that go unsaid are the ones used to hurt someone else.