College was a great time, it provided a safe environment for us to grow up, make mistakes and eventually figure out a career path we would like to go down. Along this journey, we've experienced many highs and lows that have shaped who we are as people.
This environment provided some of our greatest memories, especially when it comes to relationships. We've all had some of our most important dating experiences while in school, and though we thought the BS would stop when we graduated, it only gets worse.
The college dating scene may have left you scarred, battered and bruised, but all it has done was prepare you for the real world and how sucky finding an actual relationship is. Here are the ways in which college has forced us to lose hope in relationships after graduation.
It's a free for all.
College is one big party and at times it's so easy to get caught up in the scene. Both men and women have their fair share of fun and college truly becomes a free for all.
There will be times you don't know who's sleeping with whom and you will find yourself in multiple love triangles. These habits don't stop once you graduate, which makes it really hard to trust someone you just met.
You realize long distance relationships will never work out.
No matter how much effort you try to put in it, your long distance relationship is a lot of work with a low rate of return. You can only have Skype sex so many times and after a while you're just going to fall into temptation.
Not only is the temptation great, but you can never truly know what your partner is up to. They can tell you they are in the library studying meanwhile they're at a party hooking up with other people. You begin to realize that the suspense will kill you.
There is too much temptation.
College, like the real world, provides a myriad of temptation and if there is one thing you noticed, it's that keeping away from temptation is one of the hardest things to do. People are at different stages of their lives, some have relationships and some don't, some people aren't home wreckers and some people are and all this plays out with a tension we call physical attraction.
Multiple people can be attracted to each other physically, which in turn can lead to a lot of bad decisions, as you may have already experienced in school.
If an athlete comes along, your girl is gone like the wind.
There will always be someone that is bigger, stronger and faster. In college you see how great the athletes get treated, especially with all their groupies. Now it is more than certain, at some point in time, that your girl was one of those groupies. Well don't think for a second that things will change in the real world, just how she left you for that athlete back in school is just how they will leave you in the real world.
If a hotter girl comes along, your boyfriend will leave you.
All guys want to have that 'it' girl, you know the one that turns heads every time she steps onto the scene. In college, as soon as she walked in, he probably forgot about you and had her on his radar. Once she gives him the green light then you will slowly watch yourself become a thing of the past. This doesn't change in the real world, so don't get your hopes up.
There is no loyalty, everyone is up for grabs even if they are taken.
In college, it didn't really matter who he or she was dating, everyone was still fair game. People didn't have boundaries in college, even the closest of friends would find themselves arguing to get the same girl. This doesn't stop when you enter the real world, it only gets worse as there are more people out there who don't know you or respect your relationship.
You realize that social media sites are more invasive than you previously thought.
If you thought people were stalking you on all your social media in school, it only gets worse when you leave. People may be more spread out because of their plans after graduation, but don't think for one second that they still aren't keeping tabs on you.
There is no such thing as getting away from your past.
Getting away from your past may be one of the most difficult things you will have to deal with in your school career. Fortunately, when you graduate, some things can be pushed under the rug, but that doesn't mean you're in the clear. There will always be something from your past that will find its way back to haunt you.
You realize that dating a cheater only means that they will eventually cheat on you.
Of course you remember dating that person whom you had to shadily get away from their partner at the time. Just how easily you got them away from their partner is how easily they will leave you for someone else. You cannot date a cheater because they will end up leaving you for someone else every time.
Everyone has their own agenda in mind.
People will always have their own interests as motivation for their actions. Just like in college how you met people who had different needs, some people wanted a cuddle buddy, while others wanted purely a physical partner, some people wanted actual relationships, but those just never really lasted. People will always have their own interests in mind and don't for a second think that people will stop being shady.