Would you say some people or most people are miserable? It’s hard to tell these days. With all the fake drama everyone seems to be indulging in, one has a difficult time telling whether or not people hate their lives as much as they say they do, or if they are simply reenacting an episode from the "Jersey Shore."
Miserable people do exist, but I would like to believe there aren’t as many miserable people out there as there would seem to be.
With everyone complaining all over social media outlets all the time, you could only conclude that everyone in the whole world hates their lives. But this can’t be true…
There are a few signs that are dead giveaways, however. Here are eight of them:
1. They manage to find the worst in everything – always finding the down side.
A miserable person is miserable because the way he or she views the world is miserable. Their thought processes have been molded to always see the worst of every situation, the worst of every person, and the worst of any possible future scenario.
They manage to find the bad in any good you throw their way. Miserable people will point out the bad in any situation simply for the sake of glooming down the party -- not that they would be at a party… miserable people tend to avoid those.
2. They hate their friends.
Misery loves company, but a company of miserable bastards doesn’t necessarily like one another very much. Miserable individuals seem to make "friends" with other miserable individuals.
I’m not sure whether they find themselves friends who already happen to be miserable or if they turn their joyful friends into miserable shrews, but those who hang out with miserable people tend to be pretty miserable themselves.
I mean, why the hell else would they put up with someone so unhappy? Not even quietly unhappy, but loudly unhappy.
Miserable people like to make sure you know they’re miserable. For this reason, it seems that only miserable people are capable of putting up with other miserable people. It’s almost like a cult.
3. They spend as much time as possible distracting themselves from reality.
Their lives suck. Well, they believe their lives suck. And because they believe their lives suck, they do their best to distract themselves from it as often and for as long as possible. They drink. They do drugs. T
hey indulge in other indulgences like reading, watching movies, watching TV for hours on end… Pick your poison. The problem is, they are trying to get away from something they can’t get away from.
Reality isn’t a choice; it’s a state of existence. You exist and function within reality whether you like it or not. Trying to get away from it will only make you more miserable.
4. The first thing they do every morning is get pissed off about having to get up.
We all have those days we don’t want to get out of bed. The miserable person, on the other hand, wakes up every day with that thought process.
When you don’t like your life, you aren’t especially thrilled to wake up and live it. The problem is, starting your day dreading the following hours only makes things worse.
Going from a miserable person to a happy one has to start in the moment you wake up. Start happy, and staying happy will be easier.
5. They give lip to whomever, whenever the opportunity arises.
Miserable people don’t really like people. They don’t like themselves very much, so you can’t expect them to like anyone else, either. For this reason, they like to give attitude to those they meet.
This is something you will see clearly in a bigger city, like New York. Miserable people will do their best to overreact or react inappropriately whenever they feel someone is annoying them.
This could be something as little as being bumped into on the train. They seem to have a switch that flips every time they get annoyed, which happens to be very often. Miserable people have no issue with being rude.
6. They like to point out flaws in others.
Miserable people like to bring others down to their level, usually by pointing out everything they find wrong or unappealing about a person. They will briskly point out your insecurities and pretend like they didn’t know what they were doing.
But they did know what they were doing. They wanted to see your reaction, to see if your mood could be worsened in order to be up to par with theirs.
Miserable people like to make themselves believe the world really is as ugly as they see it, so they go pointing out the flaws and waiting for someone to agree with them, reaffirming their beliefs that what they are looking at really is as ugly and awful as they believe it to be.
7. They don’t like themselves very much, but still think they’re better than the rest of the world.
Miserable people are miserable, first and foremost, because they don’t like themselves very much. It may not even be all of them; it could just be one aspect of them that they find flawed that is weighing heavily on their minds.
The flaws they see may not even really exist, but they believe they do and that’s enough for them. They don’t like themselves very much, but their egos still force them to hold themselves in the highest regard.
What does this result in? Their belief that even though they may be a piece of sh*t, they’re the best piece of sh*t on the planet. They may suck, but they believe everyone else sucks more.
8. They believe those who are happy must be ignorant, yet are still jealous they can’t be as happy themselves.
Ignorance is bliss and bliss is happiness. Well… not exactly. Being ignorant may make you happy, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you can’t be happy if you’re not ignorant.
Miserable people would do much better trying to figure out how it is that happy people can be as happy as they are, instead of telling them they shouldn’t be happy – that if they were smarter, more intelligent, they would be just as miserable as they.
Maybe those people know something that the miserable person doesn’t. Being miserable is fixable, but only if you believe someone out there has it right – even if you yourself don’t.
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