The Allure Of Female Celebrity: How The Media Crosses The Line
This year's E! Network Mani-cam faced a letdown when star's like Julianne Moore and Jennifer Aniston declined to make their fingers do the walking for fans around the country.
While some fans were shocked and appalled, others, like myself, were happy to see female celebrities draw a line in the sand.
For years, we have watched these women parade up and down the red carpet to be congratulated for their acting, applauded (or shamed) for their dresses, and made to touch on personal aspects of their lives in front of the masses.
When you stop to think about it, you have to admit, it doesn't actually sound like that much fun.
Yes, you get to put on the world's most beautiful art in dress form, and yes, your ears, neck and fingers are dripping with more sparkle than any of us will ever get our hands on.
But, really, this is for the benefit of the fans. It's not likely these people (they are people, remember) want to be poked and prodded to reveal the private details of their love lives or day-to-day existence.
So, we need to give ourselves a hard look in the mirror and ask, are we crossing the line with fandom?
Should we be asking these women to give us a closeup of their nail polish? A peek under their dress at the shoes?
Why don't we ask them to show us their undies while we are at it!?
Maybe they won't even be wearing undies and we can create a whole new scandal that will taint the otherwise-clear images these women have worked so hard to create.
Now, I'm not saying I don't enjoy watching the red carpet events and ogling over the outfits and accessories -- I do.
But, these women walk the proverbial red carpet every day for paparazzi and constant media consumption of their haircuts, lunch dates and baby shopping trips.
We have crossed from fandom into fervor, modeling our outfits after their most recent shopping trips, recreating the diet we heard they are on and creating baby name books with the exotic choices of the celebrities.
When we're not doing that, we're harshly criticizing them, when, in fact, we know absolutely nothing about their choices.
What I am saying is these spokespeople, these women, are able to better the world around us if we are able to take a step back and stop focusing on things they may want to remain personal (like a finger closeup).
Julianne Moore recently called the mani-cam "humiliating,"and she is not the only celebrity that would like a little bit of privacy.
The fact is, these women do not have the obligation to play into the role of fashionista to satisfy our thirst for the unachievable outfit.
I'll stop so we can process that statement: They are not obligated to feed our fashionista thirst. Period.
They do not have to show us what color Essie nail polish they decided to go with for the evening, and as we all know, they don't want to be asked which designer they are wearing (#AskHerMore).
It is in these situations where we, as fans, have to give ourselves a little shake and get a grip.
These are women "just like us," and to be honest, if we were in their shoes, we would lose our damn minds.
So, let's use this moment as a time to reset expectations, and to applaud those female celebrities who are drawing lines at the ridiculous.
Let's support their freedom, privacy and right to walk down a carpet without being harassed. If we want to get "crazy," we can even jump on the #AskHerMore bandwagon.
I'll see you there.