Relationships

Guys, This Is Why You're Not Having Much Luck With Women

by Kyle C.
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Lots of men seek advice on how to get more women. They look in books and magazines, but mostly, they look on the Internet. Although there's some good stuff to be learned, realize that there's more out there.

The fact that you're willing to improve yourself and learn how to become a better man is commendable and advisable, especially if you lack experience with women. However, nothing you read will ever help you until you actually go out there and try it for yourself.

This is the most important piece of information you should get into your head. Realize that practice is the key to becoming better and achieving results.

Here is a truth you'll not find on many sites: There's no seducing technique that will work on all women, just like there is no magic formula that will make you Prince Charming.

For instance, no matter how witty your opener is, it will never work identically on two different women. This is simply because people are different, and our attitudes, moods and circumstances change by the minute.

The whole secret behind any kind of success stands in courage and perseverance. When it comes to dating, you need some guts to approach a beautiful woman, and you need to persevere to approach more women, even after you've been rejected.

In this way, you'll manage to practice your skills. At the same time, you'll improve upon them. The more you practice, the more successful you'll become.

Think about your job: Did you know from the first minute what you were supposed to do? Were you as efficient in the first few weeks as you are now? Of course not.

No matter how good you are in theory, practice is what really gets you from thinking about something to actually doing it. Similarly, all the dating advice you might find is of no value if you don't actually use it.

It's as simple as this: You can't achieve anything when you're not even trying. Overall, the more women you approach, the better your game. In this way, your success rate will rise.

You need to see things rationally. If you approach a single woman each Friday and Saturday night and manage to be successful once at each five approaches (which, by the way, is a clearly optimistic percentage), it means that on average, you'll be able to get 1.5 women in a month.

In turn, taking into account the same optimistic success rate, if you approach five girls each evening, you'll likely luck out every single evening. In practice, this doesn't only improve your game, but it also drastically increases your chances of hooking up with someone.

Besides, the more you approach women, the more confident you'll get around them. That confidence can be magnetic.

The whole seduction game revolves around confidence because when you have it, it shows. A self-assured guy already knows his value and believes in his success.

Only when you know your worth are able to show it to the other people around you. Only when you believe in your success do others believe in it as well.

If you think the woman you're talking to is out of your league, she will be able to tell immediately by the way you talk to her, look at her and act around her. On the contrary, if you focus on how great you can make her feel just because you're a great guy, you'll be able to inspire her.

On the other hand, you might be a truly awesome guy, but have trouble showing it. It doesn't matter because no woman will invest any time and effort to discover your great personality unless you give her some clues to follow.

A self-assured attitude is inspiring for both you and the women you're talking to. Indeed, self-confidence is a matter of attitude. But like anything else, it can be acquired through practice and positive thinking.

You might be wondering how you can improve your game, boost your self-confidence right away and get more women overnight. Well, in the beginning, all you have to do is to play by the three-second rule.

Say you see a girl you like in a club, bar, coffee shop or bus station. Just go directly to her in the next three seconds and say something – anything – that comes to mind.

It doesn't have to be clever or witty. The whole point is to not think too much about it because you'll start hesitating, getting cold feet and sabotaging yourself into not approaching her at all.

You can easily opt for the best opener ever: "Hi! My name is …” It suits any time or venue.

Just be spontaneous and act right away. She will see the artlessness and determination in your approach, which will make her reply in the same way.

Besides, even if you have no idea how to carry on from there, you've already taken the initial step and made a good first impression. This is always the hardest thing.

If she rejects you, there's simply nothing personal, and hence nothing to feel offended or insecure about. No woman can tell what a great guy you are in a couple of minutes. If this happens, move on and practice the three-second rule on someone else. There are endless opportunities out there.

The three-second rule is the most appropriate method for practicing and improving your seduction skills, as well as for gaining self-confidence. The more you make use of it, the better you'll get, and the more women you'll pick up.

The best seducers ever – yes, even the pickup artists who give online advice – started with many rejections and little success at some point. Their secret resides in practicing their skills toward perfection. Even if self-confidence is not a natural trait you were born with, it can be trained and acquired through experience.

Finally, you can become confident and get more gorgeous women if you possess the courage and perseverance to approach more and more of them, the determination and strength to pass over rejections and the ability to learn your lessons and accept that rejection is part of success.

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