Why You Should Never Settle For Less When Dating

by Brendan Marshall

Visitors to Elite Daily are generally in pursuit of something more – something greater than their current state. Its loyal readers are searching for a spark to ignite the passion that it takes to succeed. We are each on a personal path with destination unknown, and often times there are decisions that need to be made along the way, but one rule remains constant: never settle for less.

These decisions will set the course and it is important to consider something before committing: do not settle.

There are various areas of life that will tempt you to choose the easy option. The first that comes to mind is what we encounter when choosing whom to date. When romantic relationships and experiences build, a picture is continually painted of what is attractive and what is not. A time will come with a significant other that you must ask, “Is this person really worth my time and energy?” Do not settle.

We all hope the answer is yes, but carefully consider any doubt that enters your mind. Encourage trust in your instincts. It is perfectly natural to side with normality and avoid the fear of the unknown. Remember, though, that a person never fully grows without venturing outside of their comfort zone.

No one will be able to fulfill your every need and if you remain in a relationship because it is the easier of the two options, the long-term implications could be much worse. Do not allow yourself to ask “what if?”

A second area to consider is how we make a living. This, arguably, is more complicated than being in a romantic relationship because money is involved and there is increased pressure to adapt and conform quickly.

The goal after college is to pursue a career path that interests you, convince someone to pay you to do it, and start a life you can call your own. So often we see young, ambitious job seekers jump at the very first offer that comes their way.

The idea that someone is interested in your value and potential is positive feedback, but ask yourself: is it a good fit? Is it the right choice? Do not settle.

Finally, there is the idea of housing and relocation. You get to know someone best while working with them, but living with a person will paint a pretty clear picture as well. Be sure you are choosing a roommate and taking on rent for the right reasons.

There are few people who regret saving enough to eventually purchase a home. The point is to consider all options before jumping at the first prospect that crosses your path.

Likewise, it is easy to come back home. Whether that means the house where you grew up or the city at large, there is comfort in familiarity. If the chance to venture to another city for the right opportunity ever emerges, take time to seriously consider it. The idea of moving may terrify you, but courage overcomes fear and builds character.

If uprooting is exactly what you had in mind, use that as motivation to find a place that you will want to call home for years to come. It could be the best decision you have ever made.

No one strives for second best. Those in search of true accomplishment will be able to recognize and react to settling for less. There is a line in Pink Floyd’s "Wish You Were Here" that speaks volumes to the message I hope to convey in this article: “Did you exchange a walk-on part in the war / for the lead role in a cage?” Did you take the easy way out? If the answer is yes, I hope you at least learned something from it.

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