Oh, yes, shade has been thrown.
We’ve all come across the cute, quiet and shy guy at least once. Everyone talks about how he's usually so great and mysterious.
Well, I’ve seen enough so far throughout my 22 years of life to know the shy guys aren’t all they’re cracked up to be.
There are certain habits and behaviors that get annoying after a while. Here are a few:
1. You can’t hear him.
First and foremost, I'm so serious with this point. I just want to shout to the rooftops when I say the boy is WAY TOO QUIET. It's just unreal.
You shouldn't have to go, "Huh?" every five seconds during a conversation. Never hearing a word of what he’s saying when he talks is a problem.
You shouldn't have to strain to hear the guy in order to determine if he's charming enough to date.
Like, bruh, speak up.
2. You always have to make the first move.
Sure, you'll have that sense of confidence when you (if you do) end up asking him out. But, it would be way more romantic if he said something like, "Hey, you're hot."
Well, um, not like that. Maybe, I don’t know, “cute” or something, but you get the point.
Why would you want to always be the one to do everything in the interaction? Last time I checked, conversation works both ways.
A guy who never makes an effort toward putting in the other 50 percent in a relationship is not the type you should be looking to date.
3. Talking to him constantly feels like a one-sided conversation.
Okay, imagine this scenario:
Woman: "So, what's your favorite color?" Man: "Orange." Woman: "Aw, orange? That's cool!" Man: "Yeah."
Is it so difficult for him to return the question and ask what your favorite color is? To keep the conversation going? Apparently, yes.
Millions of unfortunate cases like these happen every day, but you can help make a difference by not taking the one-sided conversation crap anymore.
Note to quiet guys: We're going to need you to give us something more than one-to-two-word answers.
4. He comes off as cold in public.
Particular annoyances include him running right past you, barely saying hello, acting like you aren’t there in front of him, and/or just coincidentally showing up in areas as soon as you leave.
No one has time for that. Go sit in a corner somewhere with all of that.
5. He doesn’t act confident.
It's good not to fall for a cocky guy, but c'mon. A guy needs to be at least somewhat assertive.
Sometimes, social networking services help. There are some shy guys out there who are plenty confident when it comes to social media.
For some reason, there’s this idea forming in minds, saying, “Oh, hey, instead of calling, I’m just going to text and send photos and Facebook message her.”
Trust me when I say, not getting in contact with a person after a few weeks or months, other than through social media, gets boring.
Meanwhile, if you dare to have the audacity to consider face-to-face-type measures, like Skype, or maybe meeting him in public, good luck. That same quiet, shy guy most often has to cancel or doesn't show up.
So, people, you have been warned. The guy who's seemingly "full of mystery" may come off as cute and appealing, but please snap out of it and wait for an assertive, romantic guy to come along.
That sounds way better.