I Want To Find Love, But I Don't Want To Be Tied Down

By Gigi Engle

We're all geared towards wanting to find love; to find that perfect person. Yet, we enjoy our independence -- the ability to be young, wild and free.

It's an ongoing internal battle between wanting to find that special person and not wanting to compromise the circumstances of our independence.

Finding balance is a journey. It's about learning to accept everything you want and finding a way to have a little bit of everything. It's about attaining a level of comfort that doesn't cause you to be stifled.

It's unclear when or where that balance will come to fruition.

For me, it feels like my twenties are a constant, tumultuous conflict. I'd like to be with someone who makes me feel whole, but I'm still figuring out how to be whole on my own.

I want to find love, but I don't want to be tied down.

I want to find the one, but I'm still finding myself.

I'm in a place where I genuinely feel ready to find the person I'm supposed to spend the rest of my life with. In that same vein, however, I'm still figuring out exactly who I am.

It's important to be completely solid in your understanding of yourself as a human being before letting someone else into your world.

I know I don't want to be on my own forever, but I don't want to meet the right person at the wrong time and sabotage my happiness.

I want a partner, but I don't want to give up my independence.

I'd like to have that person who makes all of the hardships of being single seem worth it.

I need a partner in crime; the cream to my coffee; the Robin to my Batman.

At the same time, I don't want to stop being independent. I don't want to become reliant on another person.

True love is finding someone who is your equal, not your crutch.

I want to share my dreams, but I don't want to give them up.

I know my dreams and goals will change once I decide to settle down, but I'm not ready to give up what I have envisioned for myself.  I don't want to compromise or settle for anything other than what I've always wanted.

I guess when I get to the point where I'm willing to give a little, I can finally give myself to another person.

I want someone to cuddle with, but I don't want to spend all my time at home.

I love the idea of having someone to hold me in the dead of the night. I want someone to keep me warm. I want to lay on a man's chest and breath him in, content and utterly at peace.

That doesn't mean I'm going to give up my active lifestyle, however, just because I have someone with whom to share it.

I want someone to watch Netflix with, but I don't want to give up my social nature in turn.

I want to settle down, but I don't want to become boring.

I'm getting to the point in my life where I am ready to tie myself to another person.  At the same time, I am immeasurably terrified of becoming boring.

If I'm going to find love and finally make a commitment, I want it to make me a better version of myself.

The idea of becoming less representative of myself is enough to make me want to throw out the idea of true love forever.

I want to be a wife, but I also want to be a CEO.

I want to get married, but I, personally, will not be fulfilled as a homemaker. I have dreams of running the world, and I cannot allow another person to quell that vision.

I want to take advantage of all opportunities, and I am not going to commit to a relationship until I can see that come to fruition.

I want to plan my life around someone, but I don't want to change my plans.

I want to find someone who will make plans with me; someone who will travel the world with me; someone who will make my life better simply by being in it.

I have plans; I have a vision of my life over the years. I cannot imagine having to alter that plan.

I want someone to join me on this crazy, beautiful journey, but I'm having trouble coping with the idea that his journey may not perfectly align with mine.

I want companionship, but I like my alone time.

I value my alone time. Sure, I do get lonely, and I do crave the touch and love of another person. But what if it all becomes too much?

I'm scared that letting another person into my carefully-constructed world will stifle me. I don't want to grow bitter and resentful.

I need to be able to love someone without having my wings clipped.

I want a boyfriend, but I don't want to compromise my friendships.

I can't bear the thought of becoming a woman who loses touch with my friends in favor of my significant other.

My friendships are a high priority in my life. Thinking about allowing someone to take precedence over them is a bit daunting. My friends have been my true soul mates through thick and thin.

I want to find a boyfriend, but he needs to understand my commitment to my friends. He needs to cherish my friends as much as I do.

I want to find love, but I don't want to stop loving myself.

The most terrifying aspect of finding love is the fear of losing the love I have for myself.

I'm so sure of myself. I'm proud of myself. I know my single self like the back of my hand.

What if I'm different in a relationship? I can't stomach the prospect of my self-love wavering in favor of loving someone else.

I'll find love for another person once I know it will not conflict with the love I have for myself, but rather, help it grow stronger.

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