He Said He Would Call: 9 Likely Reasons Why A Guy Will Choose Not To Call You Again


Have you ever gone out with someone you really liked, but never heard from him after the first date? Did you ever text a man after a great evening out, but he didn’t text you back?

It should come as no surprise that men and women are very different.

Men are simple; they tend to either like us or not. Here are nine reasons why you might have had an amazing date, but still never heard from the guy again.

1. Zero Chemistry

Chemistry isn’t something that can be explained. A man can think you’re gorgeous, smart, well-dressed, very sweet and awesome, but he still might not feel any chemistry.

If the connection isn’t there, he probably won’t want to go out with you again.

2. Rudeness

Sometimes, women act rudely on dates. They forget to treat everyone with kindness. They aren’t nice to the doorman, waiter, busboy or taxi driver. Well, there’s never a reason to be anything but nice to everyone you meet. Being bitchy or obnoxious isn’t cool.

If you’re disrespectful to anyone, your date won't want to see you again.

3. Tardiness Isn’t Tolerated

Arriving fashionably late is a huge faux pas, as it shows a lack of respect for the person you’re meeting. It makes people think you’re inconsiderate. I always feel like an idiot when I’m kept waiting, even if I’m not on a date.

If you’re late to a first date, it can easily put things in a sour mood from the get-go and ruin your chances of getting a second phone call.

4. He Met Someone Else

Your date could have thought you were wonderful; he might have had a great time and was planning to ask you out again. But then, he met someone else the next night whom he liked better. He chose to pursue her, instead of you, even though you had a great date.

It happens all of the time. Don’t take it personally; he wasn’t for you!

5. You Hurt His Feelings

Men generally aren’t as sensitive as women, but they can get offended just like the rest of us. It’s important to always be nice, as kindness is contagious. I certainly wouldn’t want to go on a second date with someone who hurt my feelings.

The bottom line is that insulting someone isn’t nice, so if you say something that offends your date, don’t expect him to call you.

6. No Future Here

Often, you will go on a date, and both of you will have a nice time. For him, however, something was just off.

He could have thought you were fabulous, but he just didn’t see a future with you. Some men (not all!) have an idea about what type of woman they want to marry and take home to meet their family.

You could be a great catch, but he just didn’t think you fit into his life long-term vision.

7. No Sexy Time

Many times, you might go out with someone, and he had a terrific time, but he wasn’t sexually attracted to you. He enjoyed talking to you, but he couldn’t imagine being intimate with you. He put you in the friend zone from the moment you met.

8. Intellectual Curiosity

Being intellectually stimulating is essential. Men want to date women from whom they can learn. They’re attracted to women who are curious and challenging.

For example, if he likes talking about football and politics, and you enjoy conversing about shopping and cooking, he most likely won’t want to go out with you again.

Don’t be discouraged; there’s someone out there who has the same interests as you.

9. You’re Not Available

Not everyone is emotionally available. Some women don’t realize that they come off as unavailable, but they do. Maybe they mention all of the things they have going on in their life, and the date doesn't see how he could possibly fit in.

Many men want to date someone who is independent and has a life, but is still able to make him a priority. If you come off as too busy, he might be too busy for a second date.

Now that you know the main reasons why men don’t call you back, accept it and move on. Don’t overanalyze everything and get upset. Realize that you’re fabulous.

If you go out with someone you liked, and he didn’t get in touch with you again, move on and know that you deserve better. There are plenty of great guys out there who will both want to go out with you again and be very excited about it!

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