Everyone wants great sex. There's no denying the mental and physical benefits of a sweet sack session. But what is it about sex that men and women crave the most?
According to experts at Promescent, a leading delay spray for men suffering from premature ejaculation (PE), numerous surveys over the past decade have confirmed that emotional connection, communication, experimentation and even cuddling are all essential components of an exciting sex life. But the one thing that couples always seem to agree upon makes a sex life above average? It's the frequency of orgasms.
Although it's a common debate nowadays on whether or not you need to have an orgasm to have great sex, one thing everyone can agree on is the existence of the all-too-real orgasm gap.
If you ask women, “What is most likely to prevent you from having an orgasm?,” one of the most common responses would be, “my partner doesn't last long enough.”
Known to be a source of sexual dissatisfaction among couples, the dreaded orgasm gap alludes to the fact that men, on average, take just over five minutes to reach their happy ending. (In fact, premature ejaculation is one of the factors that worry men the most besides penis size.)
Women who are able to orgasm through intercourse (aka with penetration alone) can take up to 18 minutes. It's important to mention that only 30 percent of women are able to orgasm this way (without clitoral stimulation).
With women wanting men to last longer, and most men agreeing that longer lasting sex results in more intense orgasms, most couples resort to strategies that try to figure out a way men can delay their orgasms.
Here are five clinically proven tips to help make your love last long enough for you both to have an amazing time in bed:
1. Start and stop.
The most natural way to prevent an early end to sex is to start, stop and start again. If you're able to find what's referred to as a mid-level of excitement, you can get back to business for a bit longer without getting too overly excited. However, some men do not prefer this method, simply because it takes the fun out of sex. Therefore, they default to other methods.
2. Use a delay spray.
There are topical sprays that are applied to the penis just 10 minutes before you get it on, and can help your lovin' last anywhere from 30 to 60 minutes. As if that isn't good enough, there's no condom required. (Tip: Have your man wipe off if you're going to give oral sex.)
3. Try the "squeeze method."
This technique is often used to prevent a happy ending from coming too early. Just before ejaculation, gently squeeze the shaft of the penis between the thumb and forefinger. This causes a significant reduction in the erection, giving you more time with your lover.
4. Distract yourself.
Guys, no one wants to think about their grandmas while they're in bed with their ladies. But, letting your mind wander isn't necessarily bad if you're trying to make it a little bit longer. In fact, it's still the first way sex therapists recommend their patients put off ending prematurely.
5. Take a delay pill.
While there are no pills sold solely for the purpose of delaying ejaculation, there are certain pills that are sold “off label” that help let the good time roll a little longer.
For extreme cases, anti-depressants may also be prescribed to help treat premature ejaculation. You should always consult your doctor before taking any delay pills or anti-depressants.