Virgo, the sixth sign of the Zodiac, is often stigmatized for being picky and hyper-critical. If you are dating a Virgo man or woman, then you already know there is much more to your Virgo sweetie than that. What comes off as obsessive to some is actually reflective of a Virgo's desire to help others by improving their surroundings. Methodical and efficient, Virgos were born to serve others, and if you are in their affection, you will reap all of the rewards.
Virgos are Earth signs, which means they are grounded. Nimble and quick-witted, most Virgos have a ton of energy, both mental and physical. This is because Virgos are ruled by Mercury, the planet in charge of communication and intellectual discernment.
Virgo is most compatible with other earth signs for their shared values, and water signs for their sensitivities. Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, and Capricorn will couple well with Virgo, but air or fire signs might overpower the relationship or be too flighty to be sustained.
Dating a Virgo can be an intense experience. Here's what you need to know:
1. A Virgo Sticks To A Schedule
When a Virgo plans a date, it's with an eye for detail. Of all the signs, Virgos are the ones most likely to send you an itinerary of your evening, scheduled down to the minute. That's because Virgos thrive on order. It makes them feel secure. Although Virgos are sensitive and romantic, they are not going to surprise you with a spontaneous date. And if they do surprise you, you can bet that it has taken at least a few days of careful coordinating for them to strategize their romantic gesture.
If you are one of the more adventurous signs, you might have to tone down your spontaneity for your Virgo lover. Planning a trip with a Virgo can be agonizing, as they will want to chart out roadside attractions and rest stops. Humoring your Virgo sweetie will go a long way, though. They are a kind sign, who reciprocates patience measure for measure.
2. Virgos Will Shower You With Their Service
The Virgo is the kind of sign who will buy you a coffee pot for your birthday. Not because you asked for a coffee pot, but because they thought you needed one. If you are not able to see the beauty and, yes, even their romanticism in their practical gestures, then the Virgo might disappoint you with their displays of affections. Once you understand that your Virgo just wants things in your life to work as smoothly and efficiently as possible, though, you won't be able to help but warm to them.
You can always count on a Virgo to help you with life's more mundane tasks. A Virgo will drive you to your doctor's appointment or pick up groceries for you if you ask them. If a Virgo is running late to meet you, you can expect to get a text or a call to let you know. A Virgo in love will never leave you hanging. You can count on them, and in return, all they ask is that they will be able to count on you, too.
3. Criticism Is A Virgo's Weakness
Virgos examine everything and leave no detail unturned. As much as you might feel like you are under their scrutiny, a Virgo will be much harder on themselves than they are on you. If you're in a relationship with a Virgo, you have to show them the kind of tenderness and care that they often are not able to provide themselves. A Virgo's major weakness is that they are unforgiving of their own faults. As their partner, this is where you can best bolster them and offer your support.
A Virgo will also be hyper-observant of you. They are loyal, so if a Virgo has decided to be with you, you can trust that they have already examined all of your flaws and decided that they can live with them. However, you can expect that your Virgo will offer you a lot of advice, whether or not you ask for it. Sometimes, it is welcoming and grounding. Other times, it can feel like your Virgo is meddling. Recognize that they are simply trying to make your life better, but don't be afraid to set up boundaries before that unsolicited advice gets tiresome.
4. Virgos Are Workaholics
Virgos are Earth signs, meaning they are rooted in the physical and material world. They are also the perfectionists of the Zodiac, which means that it's going to be hard to tear a Virgo away from their work. Where other signs might be able to leave their job at 5 p.m., it will be common for a Virgo to talk a lot about their co-workers or office dynamic. A Virgo under a deadline or with a looming project to complete will usually be preoccupied and might seem more distant than usual.
When dating a Virgo, it's important to recognize that a Virgo's work is very important. If they need to work over a weekend, don't plan a date to distract them from their job. A Virgo is always seeking to improve their surroundings, and as an Earth sign, they rely on their relationship with the material world (i.e. money) to do so. Don't be surprised if your Virgo ends up going back to school to gain additional skills. Whatever a Virgo's course of study, you can expect that it will be practical and designed to help them get the upper hand in their career.
5. Respect Your Virgo's Space
Virgos are homebodies. Their space is important to them. They have the reputation of being the Zodiac's clean freaks, but that is because of their practical, detail-oriented nature. A Virgo might not be as obsessive as their reputation makes them out to be, but you can expect that they will be highly organized. Even a Virgo who appears messy will have a place for everything, even when it seems like not everything is in its place.
Virgos can be very introverted, and they don't necessarily thrive on a ton of social interaction. In addition to respecting your Virgo's system in their home, it is important to respect when a Virgo needs to withdraw and recharge. Due to their grounded, earthy nature, they might bury themselves in work or projects until they are able to fuel back up for another social interaction. When a Virgo needs to take time to themselves, use the opportunity to reconnect one-on-one with your friends. A Virgo will understand that both of you need social time on your own, and once they come out of their introverted state, they will welcome you back with open arms.
A relationship with a Virgo might not have all of the flash and fire as dating their Leo predecessor, but what it lacks in glitz, it makes up for in steadfastness and commitment. This is not the kind of relationship to take lightly, as most Virgos take their feelings seriously and approach dating with an eye to the long term. If you are ready for all the care and support that dating a Virgo has to offer you, then you both are well on your way to a lasting relationship. I'm sure it will be a happy one.
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