Having a guy best friend is awesome. They are funny, protective, they give you great advice and the only drama you two share is deciding whether you want pizza or Chinese for dinner.
But, the one negative part about having a guy for a best friend is that well, he’s a guy.
He’s a male who has opposite body parts and chromosomes and a lot of testosterone. And, any time two people of the opposite sex hangout a lot, there tends to be some hidden sexual tension that they don’t even know exists.
You’ve always told people that you are just strictly friends and you would never hook up with him. But, a few shots of tequila later, when you can’t even remember your middle name, you might feel differently.
Maybe you’ve always secretly loved him, maybe you just think he’s hot or maybe, he was the only boy in your vicinity at the time and you couldn’t control your urges.
But whatever the reason, it happened. And now, you have a problem. You went from being total bros to seeing each other naked and touching body parts you didn't even believe existed on his body.
You know that this disastrous event could potentially completely ruin your friendship with him forever, unless it is handled properly. You can blame it on the a-a-a-alcohol all you want, but now, it's up to your sober self to clean up the mess.
First, Figure Out What You Want From This
Before taking any other steps to contain this situation, figure out why the heck you hooked up with your best friend in the first place and what you want to come of it.
Was there always sexual tension between the two of you and this was just a long time coming?
Or, did that last shot of tequila send you in a hormonal frenzy and he got stuck in your crossfire. Before you try to confront him about it, make sure you know what you want to say and that you're 100 percent sure which direction you want to take this.
Do you go back to him farting in front of you and making fun of you, like he would to his sister? Or, do you ride off into the sunset in a horse and carriage?
Don’t Make It Awkward
One of the worst things you can do after hooking up with your best friend is to make it awkward. Above everything, he is your best friend first and talking to him has always been easy and natural for you.
So, this shouldn’t change anything, even though it feels like it should. When you see him out at night, don’t treat him any differently and don’t avoid him the whole night. If you do, he’ll know you feel weird about the whole thing.
Whenever he texts you, answer the same way you always do and don’t try to think too hard about the situation or about whether or not he is flirting with you.
Address your hookup as soon as possible and once you talk it through, get back to being bros and feeling comfortable around him.
Don’t Take Sh*t About The Hookup
This is the one thing that will most definitely ruin your relationship with your guy best friend. If any other people ask how hooking up with him was, you better only say positive things because everything you say will eventually get back to him, which could start a war.
Even if he did something weird, like lick your face or have some secret foot fetish that took you by surprise, keep all the negative stuff to yourself.
If you go around talking sh*t about him to other girls and he finds out, he will be so incredibly mad that he will start spreading things about you to other guys.
You don’t have to hook up with him ever again, so there’s no need to dwell on how horrible it was.
Don’t Do It Again
Please don’t try being friends with benefits or casually hooking up regularly. Though we all love the movie "Friend with Benefits" and we all wish we could find a guy friend who looks like Justin Timberlake to booty call, let’s be real.
Your boy most likely doesn’t look like Justin Timberlake and the whole "friends with benefits" thing almost always ends in failure and hatred... unless you’re Mila Kunis. But, none of us are Mila Kunis.
So, clearly this means that if you aren’t interested in starting something real with your friend, don’t hook up again. The friendship will crash and burn and you’ll realize that ultimately, a few nights of sexy time isn't worth losing him as a friend.
You rip back shots, nights get blurry and accidents happen. If you wake up next to your best guy friend, it’s not the end of the world. Just make sure you deal with the situation correctly so you can go back to being bros, eating pizza and not caring what you look like around him.