If You’re In Love With Someone, You’ll Tell Them These 9 Things Every Day
Couples in love are sometimes accused of being overly gushy and too romantic.
That said, when you're part of the couple in love, you tend not to care. In fact, when you're in love, you start to feel like the primary focus for you is your partner, and you want to make sure they know how special they are.
Although no couple is exactly the same, there are certain things couples in love say to each other every single day. These help keep the relationship happy and healthy and make sure each person feels connected.
Read on for nine important things couples in love tell each other every day:
1. Thank You
Saying "thank you" is one of the best ways to make your partner feel loved and appreciated. Unfortunately, it's a word that isn't said often enough!
Long-term couples frequently start to expect things from each other. When your partner does the same thing every day (he always makes coffee in the morning or she always makes you lunch), it can be hard to remember to keep your expectations in check.
Your partner does those things because they love you, not because they have to. So a simple "thank you" can go a long way. It's even better if you use it as an opportunity to remind yourself how lucky you are to have a partner who does such nice things for you.
My husband and I are constantly thanking each other for every little thing, because we both firmly believe that we're not obligated to do anything for each other. Even though he takes our puppy out every single night, and I help him with all his emails, we both still express our gratitude for those things and more at every opportunity we get.
2. How Are You?
"How's your day?" is an OK question, but "how are you?" is even better.
Sometimes, when people get home from work, they want to leave their jobs behind. I'm actually like this, and I hate when I get asked about how my day was. That said, it's never a bad idea to ask someone how they are. If they want to tell you about their day, they will, but if they don't, you've asked a question that will allow them to open up.
I ask my husband how he is all the time, whether he seems kind of down or whether he seems super joyful. It's a nice way to connect and to hear about what's going on in his brain. Normally, he ends up telling me not only about his day but also things he's thinking about.
3. Remember When We...
At least once a day (sometimes more), I send my husband a flirty text asking if he remembers a time when we did something wild. I thought it was because I like to reminisce, but it turns out, this is a great thing to do for your relationship when you're in love.
Anita A. Chlipala, licensed marriage and family therapist and author of First Comes Us: The Busy Couple's Guide to Lasting Love, told Verily Mag that sending a "memory jogger" text to your partner can help the two of you remain connected: “Recalling positive memories has so many benefits, including increasing positivity into the relationship and about your partner, increasing feelings of attachment, and creating opportunities for inside jokes.”
Couples in love will find ways to connect every chance they get, including with memories of their prior time together.
4. How Can I Help You?
Couples that truly love each other work as a team every chance they get, so one question they'll ask each other every day is "how can I help you?"
My husband asks me this whether I'm working or running errands or out somewhere grocery shopping. He doesn't ask because he thinks I can't do things on my own, though. He asks because he wants to ease any burden I might have, even if it's a small one. Similarly, I try to help him whenever possible.
Part of what's great about being in a long-term relationship is having a teammate whom you also happen to love very much. Remembering to ask your partner for ways you can help is something successful couples do, and it's an easy way to remind your partner you're there for them.
5. I'll Handle It
Just like successful couples in love ask how they can help, they also sometimes step in for each other and handle whatever needs to be handled without asking.
My husband instinctively knows what things I can deal with doing and what things I can't. This goes from big things like arguing with customer service when something goes wrong to little things like cooking.
When something needs to be handled that he knows I don't like doing, he steps in and handles it. And I'm also really lucky in that he sexily goes, "I've got you, baby" when he does it!
6. Have Fun!
If my husband doesn't leave the house often enough, I start badgering him with questions: "Did you go to the gym today?" "What's so-and-so doing? Do they want to grab a drink with you?" "Maybe so-and-so is free to watch sports with you."
It's not because I want to get rid of him. It's because I believe the healthiest couples maintain their own individual space within the relationship, and shooing my husband out the door, with an opportunity to say "Have fun!" is one of my favorite things in the world.
Healthy couples in love get the chance to tell each other to go have fun without them daily. Whether it is just a quick trip to the gym or a store that they like, or whether it's a big hangout with friends, giving your partner the freedom to be themselves without you is critical to helping your relationship grow.
7. Let's Go...
Just like the sexy texts I send to jog my husband's memory, I also send him texts or talk to him about future plans every day. It doesn't matter if the future plans are the next day (like planning a fun, low-key dinner out) or whether they're in three months (like getting organized for our next international trip). He loves it when we have something to look forward to that we can talk about together.
Couples in love are always planning their future fun times together and talking about it as much as possible. Looking forward to events together isn't just a nice thing to do, it also reminds you both that you're in it for the long haul.
8. You're The Best
I utter this exact statement to my husband once or more per day: "You're the best husband in the whole world."
Couples in love will tell each other on a regular basis how spectacular they are. It doesn't have to be this exact statement, but giving your partner meaningful compliments will help your bond get stronger every day.
Plus, saying something like this is good for both parties in the relationship. Not only do I actually think my husband is the best husband in the world, but saying it to him gives me a chance to take a moment out of my day and remind myself how lucky I am. Telling him makes him feel like my hero, which he is, and it lets him know I still appreciate everything about him.
9. I Love You
This one may seem like a no-brainer, but it's easy to forget that even when you're with someone who knows you love them, they still need to hear it! Couples in love remind each other every single day without fail how loved they are.
I tell my husband I love him in words, in GIFs, in little notes, in texts — every way imaginable basically. And he does the same for me. In fact, sometimes, he looks over at me on the couch for no reason and goes, "I love you so much." It's nice to be reminded of his love for me, and it's nice to keep letting him know I feel the same.
Making sure your partner feels loved, valued, and appreciated are is one of the most important things you can do to keep your relationship strong over time and ensure a happy future.