Mr. Right Doesn't Exist: 5 Ways To Start Searching For The Modern Mr. Right Now

by Paige Jones

Whether or not you were one of those starry-eyed girls who covered herself in numerous rolls of toilet paper or a white bed sheet to imitate your future wedding dress, you have to admit that most of us young single gals are itching to find Mr. Right.

Well, I say screw Mr. Right because he doesn’t exist. Yep, I said it and I will say it again: Mr. Right does not exist.

Don’t fret, Gen-Y women; there is hope and it comes in the form of a man named Mr. Right Now.

Mr. Right Now is exactly whom you need at this point in your life. He caters to your sober needs alongside your drunken adventures, and he’s there when you need him most.

Look for honorable characteristics in Mr. Right Now. Stop worrying about what Mr. Right Now will become and start looking at him for who he is. Look for loyalty, generosity and honesty in guys, rather than someone who has a good job and nice apartment.

So, how do you find this mystical Mr. Right Now?

Well, if he were simple to find, you probably wouldn’t be asking that question. But, there are a few pointers to keep in mind that may help you to narrow your search among the sea of males. Keep these tips in mind:

1. Find yourself before you try to find him.

First and foremost, be comfortable in your skin and understand your own needs. How can you possibly find a man if you don’t even understand who you are or what you want?  

You can’t expect a man to fulfill your needs if you don’t even know what they are. Finding a guy will not give your life clarity; if anything, it will test the clarity you already possess.

2. Look for traits you want in a man right now.

So, you want to find a guy who is wealthy? Well, that’s not a crime, but it can be unreasonable.

Instead of looking for a wealthy guy, start looking for one who is motivated and driven. These are redeeming qualities that will most likely lead to a financially stable career, anyway.

3. Get active.

If you are one of the fortunate few who met a guy at a local bar who’s worth a few minutes of small talk, then you, my friend, are a rare breed. Please teach me your majestic ways.

However, for those of us who are not so lucky, it’s important to get active. Try different hobbies or activities. They may naturally introduce you to new people with whom you will have a built-in common interest. Follow your mind to find your heart. Do you before you do him.

4. Don’t fall in love with his face; fall in love with his mind.

Ditch your dream guy checklist, especially if it is full of physical characteristics. Would you want a guy to dismiss you because you don’t have a D-cup or long, flowing blonde hair?

If you’re strictly searching for physical characteristics, you will most likely end up with a guy who is doing the same thing, which will likely lead to a shallow and immature relationship.

5. Let it happen and don’t overthink it.

Our brains are the sole benefactors in relationship destruction. So, you met a guy who makes you smile?

Don’t question it too much. Let yourself enjoy his company without constantly wondering whether he fits certain criteria. Trust your instincts; they are much more powerful than you may truly know.

Happy hunting, ladies.

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