Why I Still Wear My Promise Ring Years After My Relationship Fell Apart
I didn't believe in love for a while after we broke up.
But, my promise ring became a symbol I had once loved, and I could do it again.
It's not on the same finger anymore, but it still represents the fact love was once present in my life.
Hopefully, when I'm ready, it will be present once again.
Two months after we split, someone asked me what my rings were. I didn't know what to say, so I just said they were rings.
The truth was, one of them was from my parents, and the other was from you. Yours was still on my left hand.
I realized I had to stop wishing for you to come back.
So, I promptly switched my rings.
Was it a huge deal?
For most people, no. For me, yes.
I was accepting I would not get to be with the love of my life. I was accepting defeat.
I just wanted to crawl in a hole, but eventually, I learned it was going to be okay.
When I first got my ring, I was so excited to wear it. It represented our love and the commitment we were making, even though we were miles apart.
But as I switched hands, I realized as much pain as I was in, I was lucky.
I was lucky to be able to experience that type of love and give that type of love. I was lucky to get a beautiful ring and a beautiful man.
Even though you are no longer in my life, I'm still lucky to have those memories with you. Regardless of how much time goes by, I'll always be lucky.
Growing up, I always thought when you find the love of your life, everything is supposed to just work out.
But the truth is, sometimes you find that person, and it just doesn't.
We planned this wonderful life together, but you decided I no longer fit inside your future.
That's the main difference between the love of your life and your soulmate. The love of your life is a choice. You choose to fall in love with him or her.
You probably think the person is your soulmate. But when you actually meet your soulmate, it won't even compare.
When you meet your soulmate, it won't be easy. There will be hard times, and there will be good times.
But, you'll be willing to go through the hard times because you'll have your best friend and true love.
I can't say I know for sure if I've found my soulmate yet. But, I can tell you I'm on my way.
I'm not sure where my life is headed, but I know he's out there.
I just haven't found him yet.
I realize now most people just settle when it comes to relationships. The man who broke my heart could have settled for me, but I'm thankful he didn't.
He taught me how to be strong and independent. He taught me sometimes, you have to just pick yourself up and move the f*ck on.
So, if you see a diamond on my right hand, it's not a huge deal. I'm just wearing a pretty ring with a lot of memories and a lot of lessons wrapped in it.
Love isn't easy. No one ever promised us it would be.
But I know someday, all these pains and lessons will be worth it because they will have led me to true love.