Oops: What It's Like Sleeping With Your Friend's Ex

by Sequoia Etti

Unfortunately, at some point, we all have an irreversible, regrettable one-night stand we wish we could erase.

We can all blame tequila for the sloppy bathroom hookup, hooking up with a friend's ex, making out with coworker or thinking someone's a "10" only to realize in the morning that he or she ranks far lower.

While none of these tainted trophies are of good nature, you can only live and learn from them.

So, taking on one of the biggest f*ck ups listed above, I’d like to explore how one might recover after sleeping with a friend’s ex and vice versa.

Know this:

The truth will set you free, so tell it.

Eventually, the truth will rear its ugly head, so it’s better to be straight up and clear your conscience as early on as possible. As much as this may hurt the people involved, you have to put yourself first.

Fess up, and lie in the bed you've made. If there is hope for you and your friend or partner to rekindle the flame, telling the truth and clearing the air will allow you to start fresh and define how well you can forgive and provide each other with honesty.

If this person is unable to deal with the truth, then maybe there's a reason for that, and your relationship was never meant to work out, whether a friendship or love.

It takes two to tango, sometimes three -- remember that.

So, why does one side of the party usually always get the blame from those looking in?

People will always have their opinions -- that’s what makes the world go 'round. However, one party should never be solely to blame. Neither side is less guilty than the other.

For the guys: Remember the bro code. Brush up on some knowledge to avoid repeating the past.

The universal bro code. Need I say more? The unwritten, and sometmes hilariously written (blogged about), guidelines that all guys are supposedly ingrained from birth to follow.

For those of you who have committed treason against your fellow bro, code #28 goes a little something like this:

A bro should never, under any circumstance, sleep with another bro’s ex-girlfriend. A bro may proceed to make moves on another bro’s failed target (he got rejected), but only after asking permission first. If the bro declines your invitation to bust some moves, you must adhere to his wishes and find a new target.

Hey friend, where’d ya go? Frankly speaking, you’ll lose more than your load.

Sleeping with the ex of a friend is, apparently, amongst the crimes that deserve the social version of the death penalty.

So don’t be too shocked when your squad isn't acting the same, especially the friend you did the dirty to.

As Gretchen Wieners once said,

Ex-boyfriends are off limits to friends. I mean, that's just like, the rules of feminism!

Word of the wise to all you misfits who have been or may find themselves in this situation: What’s happened has happened. You can’t erase it; the choice was yours for the making.

Sure, there’s regret, but it’s what you wanted at the time, and with choices, comes consequence. In a few years time, you’ll realize you have greater f*ckups to look forward to, so get ready.