Being the single friend has its downfalls sometimes.
I know because I’d been single for a long time.
So when my sister started complaining on our family vacation that she missed her husband after two days, I really wasn’t having it.
I just genuinely did not understand how she could miss someone after two days, when I hadn’t even hugged a guy other than my dad in over a year.
But, then, something weird happened.
I fell in love.
The first thing I did was call my sister to apologize for being such a negative Nancy; I soon found myself missing my guy after two days.
After that, I started noticing that all the little things couples do that used to make me roll my eyes, now make me bubbly inside.
I had the “aha!” moment that makes people want to fall in love in the first place.
Singles, beware: If these things make your skin crawl, I understand.
But one day, they are going to make you happy, and you are going to get it, I promise.
1. Missing him after a few days:
When you are single, you're used to doing your own thing.
You get up, go to work, go to the gym and binge-watch your favorite reality show. It’s comfortable, and you like it.
So, when your non-single friends complain about missing their significant others, it makes no sense to you. I mean, if you were in their shoes, wouldn’t you want a day off to do your own thing?
Plus, you haven’t had anyone to miss in two years. They can surely last two days.
But it’s different when you love someone.
You miss the way he or she gets your sense of humor. You miss the way you feel safe when you cuddle with him or her.
This person just gets you in a way other people don’t. So when he or she is not around, you are just going to miss those feelings.
2. "Good morning" text messages:
When I was single, I imagined it might be nice to wake up to a text message from my boyfriend, but it never seemed like a huge deal to me.
When I heard my non-single friends fret when they didn’t receive their daily morning text message, I was confused.
Who cares? He probably just got up, went to the gym and forgot. No need to send out a search party.
But when you get used to these texts, it's always a pleasant surprise. It’s like having a piping hot cup of coffee ready for you when you wake up.
It just brightens your day and gives you the motivation to get going.
All of a sudden, good morning text messages are the least annoying thing in the world.
3. Kiss face emoji:
I mean, what do you get from using the kiss face emoji? Isn’t that just the cheesiest thing in the entire world?
Yes, yes it is. It's also the best thing in the entire world.
I have no reasoning for this. It’s just cute as hell.
4. Pictures of each other on Facebook:
I used to look at my coupled off friends’ profiles and think, “God, another picture?! Why? We know you are in love already."
Then, I started dating someone and found myself doing the exact same thing.
I was just so happy, I wanted to share that with the world. If he uploaded a picture, it made me feel like he was thinking about me.
Obviously, there are a ton of social media no-nos when it comes to being in a relationship, but uploading cute pictures now and then makes total sense.
5. Late-night phone calls:
A friend of mine used to get a phone call from her boyfriend when he got out of work at 2 am.
I often wondered out loud why she’d even pick up the phone at all. She told me I didn’t understand because I wasn’t in love, but she just wanted to hear how his day was.
After falling in love, I get that.
I will wake up at any time in the middle of the night to hear my guy’s voice. There is just something romantic about talking to your significant other with a sleepy voice in the comfort of your warm bed.
The thing is, these things are annoying to some respect.
But usually, they are more annoying when I am not in love. In a way, I hope I never find these types of things annoying again, because that probably means I am no longer in love.
However, I vow to my possible future, single self that I will remember what it was like when those things weren’t annoying.
In short, I’ll be happy for my "happy in love" friends.