Why This Generation Should Be More Cautious About Who They Go To Bed With

by Alayna C.

Intimacy is a tricky thing to navigate with a new partner. Wanting to jump straight into bed with someone is not a new concept by any means, especially in popular culture today.

As young adults, we try to act so nonchalant about sleeping around, but it’s taking a toll on our minds. The more we sleep around without an intimate connection to someone, the less we think of ourselves.

That is why you should only reveal your naked body to someone who can accept your naked soul.

Intimacy these days pretty much takes on one of two meanings: You’re either close to someone who can stand to listen to your deepest thoughts or you’re close to someone in the biblical sense.

Some have managed to find that middle ground; however, the rest of us are still working on cultivating that kind of relationship. What is it about being young that makes us think we must choose one option? We ought to save some things for certain people.

These days, Millennials are constantly complaining about how much they want a real connection with a special person, but when it comes down to it, we’re all cowards. We’re so afraid of getting hurt that we would rather just reveal a few things about ourselves that are psychotic in a minor way.

You’ve got divorced parents? Cool, that’s tolerable. You put on weight last year because you lost your job and slipped into depression? Fine, we can walk the weight off together.

But what about going a step deeper, instead of just skimming the surface? How did the divorce affect you? Why weren’t you able to pull out of your depression?

Truth be told, if you can’t handle yourself alone, you don’t need to be looking for a partner. Deal with your issues and come to terms with them.

Once you find comfort in your own skin and find peace with yourself, you will be open to showing your true self to others. After personal equilibrium is solidified, someone else will find it easy to come to terms with your imperfections.

We’ve got a lot on our plates as young professionals and students. It’s a confusing time when you’ve graduated from a lifetime of school and don’t know what to do with yourself. Or maybe you’ve had your job for a while and are developing into the person who’s meant to serve society.

Either way, being young is hard because there’s just so much soul searching.

Confidence is sexy to men and women. If you’re not confident with all or a few aspects of yourself, fake it 'til you make it. If you can visualize yourself a certain way, you better act that way. Radiate whatever qualities you wish you had, and soon, that is how people will see you.

The point of all this is not to say sex is wrong; we all know it’s not. Your naked body, the one that’s on display when you’re trying to reach your peak, is a sensitive thing that deserves -- or rather, demands -- respect.

For some, it takes a lifetime to accept the way their bodies look or operate, and for others, it comes quite naturally. It's important to always be working on that vision. Once you reach a point where your soul is whole and you are confident on your own, someone will appear in your life.

That person will genuinely want to know everything about your thoughts and actions, and honesty will be the best policy. You will want to be honest about every nook and cranny of your mind.

It’s once you can fully reveal your thoughts and emotions to someone that you will have a true connection. That’s when the real fun begins.

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